Overcome the Fear of Rejection

The solution for overcoming fear of rejection is to reframe your concept of it. Celebrate rejection and treat it as a valuable tool for getting you where you want and need to be in life. When you learn to overcome rejection and stop seeking as much approval from others, you naturally take more risks in life.

‘Rejection Proof’ is a thoughtful examination of how to overcome fear and dare to live more boldly. The book shares the secret of successful asking, how to pick targets, and how to tell when an initial "no" can be converted into something positive. It also shows techniques for steeling oneself against rejection and ways to develop self-confidence.

Here are some lessons from the book:

1. Overcoming rejection is necessary

To live your dreams and get where you want to be in life, you have to find your own way of coping with obstacles and rejection. For the author Jia Jiang, that meant facing his fear of being rejected head-on.

Every single rejection has a positive aspect if you just take the time to look for it. Use rejection to motivate yourself towards reaching your goal by increasing your capability. Make it your goal in life to feel comfortable in your own skin.

2. Rejection is not a judgement of who you are

Learn to rethink what rejection means. It’s not an all judgment on your skills, abilities, and personality, it’s the subjective opinion of one or several people whose views have been shaped by their own personalities and backgrounds. Just because one person doesn’t think you’re cut out for the job and rejects you, doesn’t mean others will react the same way.

Treat rejection as a valuable tool for getting you where you want and need to be in life. Don’t let people’s opinions be the final word.?Never give up and remember that rejection always has a number, to get your ‘yes’ you just have to talk to enough people.

3. All revolutionary ideas were once dismissed as crazy

Rejection is often a sign that you’re on to something important. Whether you look at authors being turned down by publishers, concept cars never making it into manufacturing, or startups struggling for funding; revolutionary ideas seldom spread fast, because the majority can’t even grasp them yet, otherwise they wouldn’t be revolutionary.

When it seems like you’re being rejected simply because herds of particular groups of people don’t want to listen to you, keep pushing. It’s not always the messenger that’s insane.

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Joe Calasan