OVERCOME FEAR BY MOVING FROM SCARED TO SACRED
Michelle Barr
I change the world by helping others transform themselves and get what they want. ???? Coach, Author, Speaker, Teacher. Loving What's Next Podcast. #SoulTeachBook #LovingWhatsNextBook
I heard an interesting little story once about a man who had a dream that Fear was chasing him. He ran and ran but to no avail – Fear was right on his heels. Finally, exhausted, the man stopped running, turned, looked Fear dead in the face and said: “I give up. You got me. Now what are you going to do to me?” – To which Fear softly responded: “I haven’t the slightest idea. This is YOUR DREAM.”
One little shift is all it takes to begin to create profound positive change in your life. A small shift in thinking, and then another, and another, until you are thinking new thoughts, doing things differently, and being a greater version of you.
Look at the word Scared, and it may feel like a huge jump from being scared to creating sacred success, the success that comes from making a living doing something you love that creates a sense of significance in your life, allows you to live your purpose, to bring your vision, your mission, your dreams and your truth to the table. You create a lifestyle and a life you love that supports you.
Scared and Sacred. Same letters. But when arranged differently, it makes all the difference.
Imagine you are playing a game of Scrabble, and you have all the letters in front of you.
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When you look at the letters, what do you see? One person sees Scared. Another sees Sacred.
And you set about to build your word based on what you see, and you play the game with it.
So much of how you experience your life is perception. Everything comes through a filter, and that filter is you.
It takes time and energy to begin to shift your mindset. At first, it feels like work, something you have to pay attention to. And then, suddenly, you are looking at the scrambled letters and seeing Sacred more than Scared, and then you are seeing Sacred almost all of the time.
Each person looks at the pieces of their own life and sees what they are expecting to see.
Maybe you’ve heard, FEAR is just False Evidence Appearing Real. Well, it’s true. The problem with Fear is that we have created a world in which we’ve lost the ability to use it as it was intended, a part of our feeling guidance system that puts us into fight or flight so we can fight the tiger in the bushes. Kill it or run away. Instead, we have created an endless supply of “tigers in the bushes” that we now have to deal with every day. Our bodies stay in a constant fight or flight coping pattern, and we burn ourselves out, we become absolutely exhausted.
Creating is challenging when we aren’t able to begin from a vibration of Joy and when we can’t summon the creative energy we need. Fear is simply a form of resistance. Recognize it for what it is, then get clear, centered, focused and moving. Bring more Joy into your life, right now, right away.
If you are ready to move out of the fear that holds you back and move forward into a life of significance and success, to create sacred success for yourself, here are some things you can do.
10 Touchstones to Freedom to step into who you are and take that out into the world
?? 1. Get back into your own energy
Some of you are more familiar with this, and other people I find really don’t fully understand or know what their own energy feels like, especially people who are empathic and intuitive and have been throughout their lives and pick up other people’s stuff and carry it around and have even agreed to carry big family energy secrets and stories and programs and beliefs and pattern.
This is something that is really good to do, start doing every day, spending time in your own energy and it’s very beneficial right before you go to bed and you kind of let go and disconnect from everything that’s going to zap your energy, that’s going to drain you and you spend time sleeping and rejuvenating in your own energy.
?? 2. Use your tools
Tools for transformation are many. Choose what you will use, what resonates for you. Don’t get into overwhelm trying to apply everything.My Coach’s Request to you: Choose one tool that you already have and use it for 30 days. The key is that you are the integral tool – you learning to use your energy and your intuition to take charge of your life.
Start building a toolbox full of tools that you can use before you get into crisis. These are tools that you can build into your daily spiritual practice. Identify your tools and USE what you have. Plug into a community, a tribe, to learn and share and grow. Know who to go to for help when you need it. This can be a trusted counselor, spiritual advisor, chiropractor, acupuncturist, pastor, mentor, coach, teacher or guide.
?? 3. Clear the way
Your Intuition is there for you. It’s coming in all the time, but your mental and emotional clutter are blocking you from receiving guidance and confusing you. Do the inner work, and watch your outer world shift. Stop trying to change everyone and everything, and, instead, change the filter it all comes through. This changes everything!
Begin with a reflection: ask yourself, what is one thing that is showing up in my life that I don’t want or one thing that is not showing up in my life that I do want? How does that make you feel? When have you felt like that before? What does it look like on the outside? Who are all the people who play out similar things throughout your life?
Begin to identify patterns. This will lead you to your core issues. We each have just a few core issues that run everything in our lives, how we think, what we believe, what we do or don’t do, how we react. At first glance, often people come to me with this long list of all these things that are going on in their lives causing them discomfort and pain, and they don’t see how they are all connected, they can’t immediately see the patterns. With new awareness, suddenly you can see what is playing out, and then you are that much closer to changing it. Once you change from within, it stops showing up in your outer world. It really does. This is what I do with people every day.
?? 4. Baby Step through it if you have to; just stay in motion!
Small steps create profound change, get started now, do something every day. That is why it is so important to get clear about what you want, what you really want, and where you want to be. You only need to know the destination you want right now, not the how. Get clear about your vision, your mission, your dreams and your truth. Allow this to be pleasurable. Spend time in this energy. Do not stress about it. This isn’t a one-time answer, and you are not locked into what you choose right now. This will evolve as you do.
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It is so important to get into motion and stay in motion. Don’t stop and start the energy. That takes a lot to get it flowing again.
?? 5. Become a match for what you desire
Work with the essence of what you want. Begin with that, really feel it and connect to it. Choose one thing or condition, and work with it for 30 days.
?? 6. Manage your mindset
Einstein really said it best: “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” You just can’t create something new with your old way of thinking. New results require new thinking, which creates new energy, which leads to new action.
?? 7. Break free of what limits you
As you begin to do these things and to consciously engage, you will really begin to see what is no longer serving you, and you will begin to make decisions about what to let go of. As you work on empowering beliefs, you will experience the limiting beliefs that once held you back, and now they have lost their power. Once you name them and claim them, they lose their hold on you. As you allow the new in, it becomes important to release the old and let go of toxic environments, relationships, habits, and ways of being that are no longer in alignment with who you are becoming and where you are going.
?? 8. Connect with your Vision, your Mission, your Dreams and your Truth
These things were placed within you for a reason. They are the best clues to help you get started moving in the direction of your dreams and desires to create a better life now. What positively charges you? What lights you up? What are you drawn to? What do you love to do? What are you best at? Why do you feel you are here? What keeps you up at night. Often, where we see a problem or issue, where we keep asking why nothing is being done about it, we are being called to do something ourselves. When we think of something, search for it and don’t find it, then wish it existed, it is often for us to create ourselves.
?? 9. Give yourself full permission
The very first two steps of my M.O.V.E. process are Make A Decision and Own It. There is great power in commitment. Once you make a decision, support yourself 100%. Self-doubt, second-guessing, confusion, and beating yourself up waste precious creative energy.
?? 10. Leap so you can Soar
There is a great proverb that says, when we come to the edge of all we know and are about to take the leap into the unknown, we must know that one of two things will happen — there will be something solid for us to stand on, or we will grow wings and be taught how to fly. This is Faith, and it comes from boldly preparing for this moment, for becoming the Master of your life and experience.
Do the energetic work first. Clear the mental and emotional clutter. Let the inspiration flow. When you get the inspired thought, take immediate action. M.O.V.E.
You’re sitting on a gold mine. The treasure has been within you all this time. Fear is simply a form of resistance. Recognize it for what it is, then get clear, centered, focused and moving.
If you are ready for support from a Spiritual Teacher, Intuitive Success Coach and Personal Transformation Specialist, contact me. Let’s have a conversation. I am filling my sacred spaces now with the Clients I will work with through the end of the year and into 2021.