Outside comfort zone becomes your new normal

By definition, going outside the comfort zone is… becoming uncomfortable. It’s like being in a warm shower and suddenly turning the water to cold - it’s so uncomfortable. And that’s perfectly okay. It’s the most normal thing in the world. It isn’t until we judge the feeling of discomfort as being “wrong” (like in your question) that we run into problems. All of a sudden, we are saying that discomfort is wrong, which makes us want to avoid it, fix it, or find techniques and mechanisms to cope with it.

But life isn’t only meant to be comfortable. Birth is anything but comfortable. Getting teeth is not comfortable. Having someone take your toy from you isn’t comfortable. Having to go to bed when you don’t want to isn’t comfortable. Having to go to school when you’d rather stay home isn’t comfortable. About a billion things in life are uncomfortable. If you make them a problem, you will spend your whole life fighting against discomfort. But discomfort isn’t a problem. It’s as normal as the night is to day, or winter is to summer.

So breathe into your discomfort, my friend. Let it in like the long lost friend that’s been stuck out there in the cold. Offer it a cup of tea and a place to rest, and before you know it, it will be on its way out again. And there will be nothing left for you to fix. When we live with similar kind of people and feel secure in all areas, and when someone get opportunities and he/she grasp opportunities and then we want also to move forward, but we scare to take risks.

But when we scare to changes, we can say it’s comfort zone. Don't compare yourself with others, it's true that lots of people are smart more than you, but a another true also and that is, you are also smart more than lots of people. Stop getting scared as it's meaningless. Don't stop yourself taking risks. Try to approach who are smart in your interested life's areas. Whatever you want to become in your life lots of people already the same, meet them and talk them. On daily basis check your progress and ask own self it's same life what you want to live or different, if different then why?

Imagine after that when we think about it and after that take all necessary steps to live life as per own desired life and life style. At least try to above lines for once a day and then you can check magical difference in your life. Be a risk taker. The bit of sarcastic philosophy my father liked to throw in my face when those crazy Korean Howard Cosell drag racing moments, or experiences so wrong that even the jello didn't want to be around to witness the conversation matriculating around the dinner table, that made it so easy for me to identify with John Cusack's character, and almost impossible for me to laugh, because it just hit way close to home for me to think of my teenage years, or the day to day calamities seen in the movie “Better Off Dead” I had the misfortune of calling “my life” ---went so far into tangent

I almost forgot the year isn't 1983 anymore. Anyway, I always felt my dad reminding me that “Life is what happens when you are making other plans.” was less about providing philosophical context for helping me to keep myself grounded in reality, when it appeared that my expectations in life had ‘once again' exceeded my grasp, then it was about bringing my feet back down to Earth, and my face shoved squarely in dead center of whatever pile of metaphorical crap my overactive imagination was creating at that moment in life. Cheers!