Our Scaredness as Helpers

We all know and feel in the past 4 years or so, there has been a tremendous amount of sharing publicly about our journey related to a variety of experiences. We've gained insight into our deepest imagination, understanding our human emotional pain and the complexity of relational experiences. I feel that this outpouring of opinions, thoughts, beliefs, and truth is mainly our protective way to still process post-pandemic collective trauma. Which is all exactly how it should unfold. I did read or hear something the other day " So has anybody checked in to see how we are all doing ?"

Personally and professionally I have been learning lately to withhold and try to have more self-discipline and self-control with my sharing. I often overshare and I think this is a result of my childhood trauma. It got me thinking of the link between this major global shift over the past few years. I feel our humanity is reaching out to gain some sense of reassurance that we are doing ok. We are sending out our " feelers" to see how the next person is coping with life. We are a very remarkable creature.

My reflection. We have a sacred responsibility to be mindful of our sharing now. I mention this because I do sense that many of us, especially in the social services field, or helping profession may share and even try to teach others about life skills that may do more harm. Because without proper clinical training, we may be sharing or providing support for others that is based on our own shame-based, trauma response, and fear-based process. This is why we have colleagues to monitor competency and skill. To protect people from harm in the world of psychology and psychotherapy practice. Now, don't get me wrong there are many amazing wonderful life coaches and helpers out there that really do help people process and even change. But we have a responsibility as professionals to help sort out what is healthy advice and and direction, what is harmful. We can not expect workers who haven't had proper clinical training to take people through their trauma for example.

A good helper always steps back to the source of where they had their primary training and needs to review their own goals and skills. Some of the best workers I know have good mentors and supervisors.

Peace and Love