Our Perception Leads to Under-standing

Our perception leads to our internal understanding. If our perception is skewed, our understanding is compromised. When our understanding is compromised, we can easily victimize what is happening or has happened. It begins to feel like things happen to us and that we don’t have choices as to how we deal with what has happened. Our language begins to change and we step into a victim mentality.

Don’t get me wrong. Things do happen to us, we can be victimized. This is not about victim shaming. It’s about learning to live in healthy detachment.

Parents are not supposed to laugh at you, mock you or talk about you behind your back. If they do, those things can be traumatic as well. One person’s experience can be another person’s nightmare. It’s all about perception.

It’s important to love yourself and grow the traumatized child within.

Case Study: I had a client whose mother was mentally ill and her father was a narcissist. She told me that she basically “wasn’t wanted at birth”. When I did a (long distance) muscle test, her traumatized child was literally age zero. In 3-weeks, she was up to age 26 and her life, as well as her emotions, were completely different. She wasn’t triggering like she had been and life started to flow smoothly for her.

When I’m talking to a client whose traumatized child muscle tests at, for example, age 4, I say, “What do 4-year-olds like to do?” We discuss their answers and even look that age group up online. Then they choose a developmental activity for that age and do it.?

Another activity I have them do is to think about what they didn’t get emotionally or physically from their parent or parents. I have them change the story so it fits what they would have liked. Even if it was in their best interest, they can change the story if they feel like it.?

We are merely breaking the emotional hold the story has on them.

It crushes me when I hear people tell their traumatized child that everything will be okay and it can hide and come out when it wants to. What this means is keeping the traumatized child in fear and at the same age forever.

You wouldn’t keep a 4-year old, a 4-year old, for the rest of its life. Right? That’s cruel.

People don’t always realize that they can “grow” the traumatized child and that it is important for their own mental health and well-being. They get to be the parent to that child, the parent they didn’t have, the parent they wished they were able to experience. Rather than the parent who treated them poorly, ignored them or hurt them. Parents are just one example. Trauma can come from many things, people, and/or places. What might be internalized as trauma to one person, might not be for another. We all experience things differently and that’s okay.

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