Is Our Generation Commitment Phobic?

Back in the 1990's, life was simpler. Agree or not, a major reason for it being so was simply that there were fewer choices. Everybody followed a set path and did the same thing. A bachelor's degree for example consisted of three options- it was either a B.A or B.com or B.SC. Fast forward to 2023- A B.com degree consists of B.com in Accounting and finance, International accounting, applied accounting, strategic finance, B.com honors and what not!

Well, more choices does mean that we have more options to choose from and wider career paths to build. That being said, it has also provided us to switch careers. Every individual can now switch his or her career after high school or graduation by pursuing another degree in an alternative field.

Naturally, we are so confused about our own choices and life decisions that we do not know where we would be in the next 6 months, forget 5 years. In such a case where we are too busy dealing with our lives and trying to solve our own problems, how does one possibly expect us to take the responsibility of someones else's life.

YES, this generation is commitment phobic. We fear to commit in our work lives, in our friendships and our relationships. We cannot commit to work for a company for two years because what if I am not liking it and want to leave in the middle. We cannot commit to long term relationships because what if we get bored of each other or develop different choices and move apart. We simply cannot commit to friendships because what if you find better friends who you think understand you better than I ever did.

Very honestly, nobody is to blame. It is just that the world we live in has changed. There were times when promises and commitments were meant to be upheld because we had love within us to give to those around us and then this is the time when we simply cannot keep up to commitments because we are not very sure about our own lives, are too stressed and don't have love to share.

This is not wrong, this is just how it is. It is high time that we stop judging people and start understanding that there is a reason behind every action and reaction.

Often we ignore the pain that a person is going through and when it comes out as anger, the person is labelled as arrogant or mad. Trust me when I say this, we are all in the same boat, we are all equally confused in our lives and so instead of judging each other, let us simply understand that it is okay to not commit.

Let us be there for each other at the moment.