The Other Possibility

The Other Possibility

There are certain things and situations we tend to shy away from.

Either because of bad experience or because they don’t correspond to our natural preference.

Whichever the case, in those situations it’s easy to anticipate a negative outcome, and it’s understandable.

We don’t feel good about that upcoming situation and so our mind automatically anticipates that it might be a negative experience.

The thing is, if we focus too much on that, that it’s going to be unpleasant, most likely just because of that, that’s what it’s going to be.

Because we’re so convinced that it’s going to go bad, that we won’t perform well enough, that we’ll make mistake, that others won’t like us, and so on and so forth. The list of things that could go wrong is endless.

But did you think about the other possibility?

What if things actually go well?

What if you actually can enjoy being in that situation (or at least in part), if you open yourself up to it and allow it to happen?

If we keep reinforcing our negative feelings about the same things over and over, over time it’s going to be very hard to get out of that because we’re constantly, subconsciously looking for things to confirm our fears.

But that’s not necessary.

Imagine a situation that you always fear, or in which you tend to feel uncomfortable.

It might be a pitch, a job interview, getting feedback on your writing, whatever it is.

And then, imagine yourself being absolutely comfortable in this situation and understanding, that there is nothing personal about it. Nobody is attacking you as a human being. There’s nobody trying to trick you or judge you.

There are a lot of really well-meaning and friendly people out there. But if we focus too much on the negative outcome of situations often we don’t see that.

So, next time there’s an upcoming situation that you usually fear, just be aware that the outcome also might be very good.

Opening yourself up for positivity is an important part of letting your inspiration shine.

Inspiration doesn’t come if you focus on negative and unpleasant outcomes. Just try and see what happens. Give inspiration a chance to present itself!

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