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“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often”Winston Churchill

It’s easy to follow the herd and give in to peer pressure and demand for conformity. It is a lot more difficult to strike our on your own and truly be yourself.

But being true to yourself is perhaps the greatest gift you can give to the world.

To do this you must first learn to love yourself, practice re framing events in your life in a positive light, and don’t worry about trying to be perfect.

Instead of allowing outside opinions to affect how you see yourself, focus on the things you like about yourself and keep working towards your goals.

Be your own biggest cheerleader and work towards overcoming obstacles instead of calling yourself names or assuming the worst will always happen.

Here with me you will learn how to use positive affirmations to improve your self-confidence.

1- Improve your inner Voice

• Overcome negative beliefs about yourself. Many people have trouble letting go of negative thoughts that they have about themselves. These negative thoughts often come from outside people whose opinion we value and from whom we seek love and acceptance
• Avoid perfectionism. Some people have trouble accepting anything less than perfection from themselves. If you find yourself pursuing perfectionism and feeling negatively about yourself when you are less than perfect, take three simple steps.

Stop your current line of thinking, then focus on the effort that will be required to work towards a goal, then steadily apply the required effort.

Changing your focus from a final product (which may be evaluated in terms of "perfection") to the effort behind a task (which is harder to quantify as "perfect") can help you appreciate your own good work.

• Discard your negative filter. Focusing only on the negatives in your life is a bad habit. Excessive focus on negative or less favorable events in your life can make these events seem disproportionately important. If you find yourself complaining that everything that happens to you is bad, try to find a little evidence to the contrary; it is very unlikely that everything is really bad.

• Never call yourself names. Calling yourself a name is reducing yourself from a human to a single element of yourself that you do not like.

Saying “I am such a failure” after getting fired from a job is inaccurate and unfair to you. Instead, make the useful comment, “I lost my job, but I can use this experience to find and keep a new job.”

Saying “I am so stupid” is also likely untrue and reductive. If you feel stupid, it’s more likely that you have a lack of knowledge about something. Instead, think, “I don’t know how to do this basic home maintenance. Perhaps I could take a class and learn to do this in the future.

• Do not assume that the worst can happen. It can be easy to fall into the assumption that the very worst outcome will happen with every situation.  However, changing your inner thoughts to be realistic or truthful can help you avoid the generalization or exaggeration that accompanies assuming the worst
• Rewrite your internal script. When you realize that you are thinking negatively for yourself, acknowledge the feeling, identify the source of the feeling, and then consciously make a new statement re-writing your thought as a more positive one.

For example, if you forgot to send an important work-related email, you may find yourself thinking “I am so stupid! How could I have done that?”

Stop yourself, and think “I feel stupid right now because I forgot to send the email. When I would forget to do things as a child, my father would tell me that I was stupid. These are his words, not my own, in my head.” Then think to yourself, “I am a competent employee who made a human mistake, and I will be sure to write myself a reminder in the future. For now, I will send the email along with an apology for not sending it before.”

2 - Exercise Self-Love

• List your positive attributes and reflect on them daily. This can be difficult for someone who habitually thinks negatively of themselves, but try to find one positive thing about yourself to add to the list once a week. At the end of each day, reflect on your entire list.[8]Make your list very specific. Instead of using general adjectives to describe yourself, try listing specific actions or attributes that describe who you are and what you do.
• For example, instead of simply saying "I am generous," you can write "Any time I know that a friend is struggling, I give her a small, thoughtful gift to show that I care. This makes me generous."
• As you read and reflect on your list, remember that each item on the list, however insignificant it may seem, is a reason that you are worthy of respect and love.

Give yourself the gift of time. Do not feel guilty for spending time thinking about and reflecting on yourself and your own life.[9] It is important to give yourself the time and permission for self-love. You will likely find that by doing so, you are more able to spend quality time helping others.

Celebrate and reward yourself. This is the fun part of self-love: rewarding yourself![10] If you have had a significant accomplishment, celebrate it with a nice dinner at your favorite fancy restaurant. Think of all of the hard work you do every day, and find a reason to reward yourself with something nice. Buy yourself the new book or video game you’ve had your eye on. Take a long shower or bubble bath. Go on a solo fishing trip or get a massage.

Develop a plan for dealing with setbacks or negativity. Notice what tends to throw you off from your current path of self-love, and decide how to deal with those things.[1 Realize that you cannot control the words and actions of others, but you can control your responses and reactions.

• You may notice that negative comments from one particular person, such as your mom or your boss, set you off into a spiral of negativity. If this happens consistently, try to identify why this is.
• Decide how you will deal with negative thoughts you do have. You may need to give yourself a time-out to meditate or breathe. Acknowledge your feelings and reframe your negative reaction with positive reminders of your self-worth.

Repeat positive affirmations daily. Find some positive thoughts that help you feel better, and repeat them daily. This may seem awkward or cheesy at first, but the habit will cause the positive thoughts to sink in, and you will begin to believe them, even if you don’t at first.

• A good positive affirmation to promote self-love is: “I am a whole, worthy individual, and I respect, trust, and love myself.”
• If you find that the affirmations are not helping on their own, try visiting a therapist and pursuing a multi-level treatment that includes other approaches as well.

Do things that make you feel good. Think of feeling good physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Do what it takes to feel good in multiple ways; it may require exercise, meditation, dancing and keeping a positivity journal. Find a routine that feels good and stick to it.

• Spend time alone doing activities you love, or take yourself on a fun outing such as going to the movies or even going out to eat, whether it be pizza or your favorite dessert. Don't forget to take advantage of alone time and use it for pleasure!

Reflect on the effects of practicing Self-Love .

 When you spend time loving and rewarding yourself, you will likely see benefits in other areas of your life. Notice whether you have more energy, or if you are able to be more present with others.

You might start to feel like you are more in charge of the choices you make, and that you have more control of your life.

3- Practice Loving-Kindness Meditation.

• Understand Loving-Kindness Meditation (LKM). LKM is a form of meditation that enhances your feelings of kindness for yourself and others. LKM can give you the tools that you need to become proficient in self-love.
• Embrace the principles of LKM. Loving-Kindness Meditation involves loving without the imposition of expectations or conditions. It encourages you to love without judgment (either of yourself or others). 

Judgments of ourselves or others often causes misery in relationships with others or in our own minds. Learning to love without judgment is learning to love selflessly.

• Breathe deeply. Begin with breathing in slowly and deeply. Sit comfortably in a chair and allow your chest to fill completely with air, expanding from your diaphragm. Then exhale slowly and completely. 
• Support yourself with positive affirmations. As you continue your deep breaths, begin repeating the following affirmations to yourself: 
• May I achieve my dreams and live in happiness and peace.
• May I love others with my whole heart.
• I wish for myself and my family to be protected from harm.
• I wish for a life of health for myself, my family, and my friends.
• May I learn to forgive myself and others
• Identify negative responses you have to the positive affirmations. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts while you are repeating these affirmations, think about who is triggering these negative thoughts.

Identify people towards whom you have difficulty feeling unconditional love. Repeat your affirmations, thinking about these people. 

• Think about someone you feel positively towards. Repeat the affirmations, keeping that person in your mind as you repeat them.
• Think of someone you feel neutral about. Repeat the affirmations, keeping that person about whom you feel neutral in mind.
• Allow the positivity from the affirmations to fill you completely. Repeat the affirmations without thinking of anyone in particular. Focus instead on the positivity of the affirmations.

Allow the feelings of positivity to fill you completely, and send that positivity out from yourself to the entire planet.

• Repeat a final mantra of love. Once you have extended feelings of positivity everywhere, repeat the following mantra: “May all living humans feel and be joyous, happiness, and healthfulness.” Repeat this affirmation five times as you feel the words resonate in your body and extend out to everything in the universe.

4-Understanding Self-Love.

• Know the dangers of a lack of self-love. A lack of self-love can lead you to make harmful choices. A lack of self-love often equates to a lack of self-worth that leads to conscious or unconscious self-sabotage and prevents individuals from advocating for their own basic needs.

Lack of self-love can lead to a harmful dependence on others for validation.Relying on others for validation often leads people to set aside their own needs in order to gain others’ approval.

Lack of self-love can also prevent emotional healing and progress; one study showed that individuals who engage in self-blame and ignoring themselves had poorer outcomes in psychotherapy.

Be True To Yourself & Love Yourself Truly .

See you Tomorrow with Way # 62

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ABOUT MARWA ABD EL AZIZ

Marwa is a pioneer and expert in developing projects to build revenue, profits and corporate visibility with extensive experience in all facets of projects starting with site identification, developing and overseeing the implementation of the feasibility plans for projects; actively participating in the various financial analysis, acquisition, master planning, design review and tendering.

She is in the UAE Property Development industry Since 2001 during which she has coordinated all administrative activities pertaining to construction projects with an overall budget exceeding 5 billion.

Marwa holds an Architectural Engineering degree, PMP and Master in Project Management from the American Academy U.S.A.

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