The Opinions, DOING THE UNDOABLE 1.1

Lots and Lots of feedback on my first article and almost all of it were very constructive. Thank you all for taking time and you are the reason i am writing this.

What are the things that we think we can never do and yet somehow if asked, if forced, if put into the situation we are able to accomplish maybe even outperform others? The only limitation to our abilities, to our superpowers is no one else but, us. I have seen people (mostly in the mirror like me) saying I can't do it, and I am not saying become a yes man but yes we can do it. Yes, there are certain limitations our body, our mind our soul, but most of us never tested those limitations. We encounter such limitations only when we hit the wall, any point before that is just ourselves telling us we can't do it.

Do you know why we think we can't do? Before we go into this discussion we need to establish one thing, do we need to do this? There are so many things that we think we can't do, we should be able to do most them, but should we really be doing all of them? And a simple answer is NO. We have to pick and choose, what we can do and what we want to do. A wise man once said chooses your battles wisely. We will be tempted, encouraged, dared or even forced to do so many things that we regret in the future, or not worth doing in the first place, so we should pick wisely.

Now back to the subject. There are many reasons, factors, variables behind that undoable task, depending on an individual’s personality, environment, culture, brought up and many more. But the strongest of them is opinion, opinions of people around us. And frankly not all of them matters. As I mentioned in my previous article, we should surround ourselves with like-minded positive people, not life sucking parasites with a negative view of the whole wide world. In a normal person's life there are not more than 4 to 5 people worth listening to. It could be anyone starting from family, obviously, could be a friend or best of all a teacher. We should take their opinion as is and change our choices or even lifestyle. After these, we have to understand who is giving good advice and who is manipulating us. Out if the inner circle, a person always criticizing and a person always appreciating your every move, both opinions needed to tuned down, to a very low volume maybe just mute.

Now when we have surrounded our self with the people we trust and the people care about us, let's take a leap of faith on the things we thought we cannot do. And the first step to knowing for sure is just doing it. we have to give it a try once, and if we fail to do it, do it again, and if it's worth trying do it again. Now we will be certain of the outcome, either it was just worth a shot if it didn't happen we can move on like, I can live without learning Kungfu or, it’s important to us? In this case we have to learn, practice and give it our best shot. Let me tell you a little secret if we give it our best it will happen, we will be able to do it. Unless there is a real physical challenge, we can't ask a camel to become a horse.

One of the major factors stopping us from doing something is our own opinion, an opinion based on no reasoning or experience at all. There are many things we made up our mind based on zero experience and knowledge or, maybe based on our experience on a specific day our in a specific environment. we spend years making up our mind about things, The movie we saw once and hated, the city we will never go back to because it was raining the day we visited, a food that we never want to see just because it was once served in a very bad restaurant, Maybe it's time to start forming some second impressions. Unless we go through the full experience we cannot be sure of it.

So summing up it all, rethink, we don't have to barricade ourselves by our own mind or some people who pretend to our friends. Live free and yes we can do the undoable.