Open Your Heart: The Magic of Allowing Yourself to Receive

“Stop trying to please everyone, stop trying to fix everything …you’re not wrong for it” Obongjayar

“Wrong for It” by Obongjayar is my new favorite song. For so many years I gave more than I received. Even now, I have discovered this imbalance in myself. With my words I said “I am pouring into myself” and yet I did not allow others to pour into me.?

Pause with that thought.

Can you relate? Self nurturing is completed with being in the frequency of receiving from others. We are one consciousness and collective. Are you closing the door on receiving from others? Are you self-sufficient? A strong independent woman? That energetic reality of the superwoman always wearing your cape or shield “against” being truly vulnerable. Does your heart quake a little at the thought of the possibility of letting others “see” you??

I actually shutter at the thought personally.

And the result is others do not pour into me. I was reminded of the danger of my lower frequency yesterday. In an hour of true need, there was no one to pour into me even the person who was closest. And the distinction of what close means also revealed itself. So exercising my somatic tool box, I opened up my frequency and four people poured into me. Also I got to release those who I considered close and redefined my perception of close.?

Close - those in your soul level connection usually including womb connection or historical patterns spiritual reciprocity in relationship.

Pause here and feel into your body for your womb space connections or those with historical patterns of reciprocity.

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You may be a more logical person and need more clarification. In a recent conversation, with a highly accomplished woman, she shared how growing up in a house full of brothers in her traditional religious home, she had no voice. Her outlet was writing. She is a very proficient writer but has never published a book because she felt no one would listen or even consider her words worthy. However, she used this talent to become school paper editor and eventually in university on the student council again with all men. She also has amassed several advanced degrees and now dares to speak on stages. Because with all the exterior validation of her degrees, she now believes that others will listen to her. When I brought that to her attention, she reflected and agreed.?

She is not an anomaly. I see this pattern is many women from traditional religious, Black, and Brown communities. Perhaps even if you are outside of that demographic but born before 1970 you can relate. Do you feel out of balance in your world of giving and receiving? Truly, quietly between you and me, are you depleted and still believe that you “enjoy” giving? With each passing year are your annual physicals resulting in more health warnings? If so, your body is telling you that you are out of balance. Listen to Your Body, is one of my upcoming events with two other sensuality experts. Choose to come and become empowered to be a stand for inner balance.

Allow yourself to receive today, Receiving completes giving ?????

The ripple effects of giving more than you receive skews your world view and perhaps you do not allow other women to pour into you and fix your crown. In September, I will be part of a retreat in Atlanta with Brigitte O’Michaels based on the four pillars of life (money, mindset, man and mobilizing) in her book, Gurl Fix Your Crown. This past Wednesday we went to live and discussed my portion of the retreat, Man. Specifically I will be speaking on how we give more than we receive in the bedroom with our silence. Everything I do is somatic, meaning moving in the body and connecting the sensations, feelings, emotions and thoughts to the present.

I am sharing what I am up to in relation to what you are experiencing so that you are aware there are safe spaces for you to be in your wholeness. While there are messages about healing and releasing toxicity, I believe that no matter what you experience you are always whole and your body is a willing vessel with involuntary systems to release toxicity. Whether you listen and welcome or “receive” the full benefits depends on your choices and spaces in which you live. I call this joy-bonding. Joy bonding is both internal as well as a creation of community. Be in my spaces and community.

Does this relate to business?

For almost ten years, I have been offering these spaces to individual women. I am slowly turning away from this model and offering to organizations so that we change how we do business. In 2022, I started coaching executives and currently work with teams to implement joy-bonding as a human centric approach. Who you are inside is how you show up in business. Congruence matters to the bottom line. I can share from personal experience. This year I have been generous with my time and offered excessive amounts of complimentary coaching sessions. This quarter I have implemented a change and you will notice that in order to get on my calendar even for 30 minutes, there is an investment. Every breath you emit is precious and could be your last. Every experience, every minute that has been expended in research, study, practice is worthy. If you don’t ask, you don’t get. That is the true reason women fail at business, get paid less as executives and could live better. A true boss is a boss of her energetic boundaries. The most precious boundary to maintain is that of time.

Is your business losing time? That means your staff is unproductive and inefficient.?

Are your teams caught up in generational or other bias? That means each individual has lost the joy of applying their expertise to the organization.

Do you fight everyday to “make” it all work? That means you don’t love your mission and are losing sight of your vision.

My invitation is to allow yourself to receive from others; create an environment at home and at the office of energetic reciprocity and finally choose pleasure in every facet of your life.

Congruence is the spice of life!

I help professional women to create sustainable practices of self-nurturing and total wellbeing with my signature Jynger Bytes ?? process. I also consult with corporations to create a productive and inclusive environment with the same process to create joy-bonding vs team building.

I encourage team synergy with somatic movement and inclusive connection with joy bonding.