The Only Thing Holding You Back...Is You...
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Last Tuesday, our Mindset Moment?group kicked off and something powerful happened right off the bat.
We sat together, a group of high performing lawyers, entrepreneurs, coaches and professionals, each with their own ambitions and challenges.
And we asked one question:
What if the ladder we are so desperate to climb is actually leaning against the wrong wall?
This led us to our first mindset tool of the session:
Radical Honesty >> The First Breakthrough
We explored radical honesty, in the context of our most important goals.?
This means; no more surface-level answers. No more vague aspirations.
Everyone had to share their goals and be completely honest with whether they are truly important goals for them, or adopted ideas from others.
Not excuses. The truth.
When we don't achieve our goals, it's not because we're not capable, it's very often because we don't actually desire them (deep down).
We challenged this by exploring all the reasons responsible for slowing us down.
And this led us to mindset tool number 2:
The Can’t vs. Won’t Shift >>
I introduced a simple but brutal linguistic frame:
Look at each reason you aren't achieving your goal through the lens of some form of "I can't", and what this means.
"I can't" is a common reason and a useful one; it releases us from our responsibility and places it elsewhere; on other people, places, times, circumstances, cats, dogs - you name it.
Anything but us.
When we start to replace "I can't" with "I won't", we suddenly create choice.
And when we have choice, we have power and possibility and suddenly, goals become more achievable.
Replace every ‘I can’t’ with ‘I won’t.’
Try it for yourself.
“I can’t leave my job and start my own business.” → “I won’t leave my job and start my own business.”
“I can’t take more time for myself.” → “I won’t take more time for myself.”
It stings, doesn’t it? Because won’t?is a choice. And choices reveal the truth.
Suddenly, the reasons holding people back weren’t external barriers.
They were internal decisions.
One participant shared how they can't achieve their goal until they learn to use technology more proficiently, before catching herself, spotting her limitation.
And in that moment, the real work began.
Transformation in Real Time >>
By the end of the session, perspectives had shifted.
Goals that felt impossible suddenly had a pathway.
“I’ve been lying to myself about why I’m not moving forward.”
“I thought I was stuck, but I was just avoiding discomfort.”
“I realised I don’t need permission to go after what I want.”
Radical honesty creates clarity. Clarity creates action. And action creates results.
Your Next Move >>
Try this for yourself:
The next Mindset Moment?is happening Tuesday, 25th March at 7 PM.?
If you’re ready for deep shifts, real breakthroughs, and a no-BS approach to leveling up, RSVP
This isn’t about motivation. It’s about shifting perspective and creating results.
And perspective, changes, everything.
Win the week ahead,
Stefano