“The only thing that is constant is change” – Hercalitus (Greek philosopher)

Who knew that just over 3 months ago, our world would take a sudden turn? Within a matter of days, our world looked like a different place. Our daily routines were no longer routine and everything that we once thought ‘normal’ was now questionable. In addition, you just happen to be in the middle, at the start or at the end of your military to civilian transition. You’ve listened to all the advice and made all the checks next to the boxes – but this world situation was not part of the plan!

Who knew that you’d be part of a larger transition during transition?

That’s exactly what this situation is – a transition.

Believe it or not, the best part of transition is that it is quite literally a PHASE of life. This one, we just all happen to be going through together! The best part? We are all going through it together! We have seen our media share a lot of negativity over the last several months too… it seems that beyond the four walls you’re stuck in so often these days, it’s a scary, hateful place. But consider those nightly ‘good news stories’ on ABC World News – the truth is, there is a WHOLE LOT OF GOOD going on right now. People are actually coming together. We are getting creative about the way we interact and the way we communicate. Our workplaces are being forced to adapt quickly to the environment. Those who can’t adapt or don’t adapt simply won’t make it. So, though it all seems incredibly overwhelming for you transitioning from the military to civilian world – consider that you are already actively tackling transition and that you are believe it or not – WELL EQUIPPED to handle this!

“The only thing that is constant is change” – Hercalitus (Greek philosopher)

Here are some tips to navigate through the transition  -

First, be in the “now”. Focus on where you are now. Rather than focus your energy about past or projecting fears about your future, capture where you are now. Do a deep dive into yourself, your situation and the gap. Yes, do your gap analysis! If you can accept where you are and take things step by step, the overwhelming situation will dissolve and you may actually be excited by the challenge!

Second, accept that change is natural! Without change, we would not grow, learn or experience the power of human experience and connection! It’s also very normal to find a positive change stressful. So, keep in mind that even good things can cause stress and try not to be so hard on yourself!

Third, maintain an overall positive attitude and KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR! Research shows that playfully reframing situations and using positive humor correlate with subjective happiness. Furthermore, self-enhancing humor, the ability to maintain a humorous perspective in the face of stress and adversity, and affiliative humor, the ability to enhance one’s relationships with others, have been shown to increase self-esteem and decrease symptoms of loneliness and depression. You may also feel more self-confident!

Fourth, recognize your strengths and SUMMON THEM! Experience is a valuable teacher. Reflect on how you’ve managed to get through difficult times in your past. (Look! You’ve been in the military! Surely you’ve been through some gut checks and you’ve made it out! Give yourself some credit!) Think about how you have successfully navigated new things throughout your life. These strengths can help you thrive in the midst of your transition!

Fifth, rely on simple self-care routines. Right now, self-care is everything! When the change you’re facing is out of your control, you have the POWER to design and simplify your routine to serve your needs. Tears and meltdowns are allowed and can happen (it’s part of life!). This this is the perfect time for bonding, healing and relaxing!

Sixth, TAP INTO YOUR NETWORK AND BUILD A NEW COMMUNITY! A strong network is not only critical to your success in finding opportunities, but a strong network is CRUCIAL in HELPING US DEAL WITH STRESS AND CHANGE! Studies show that those with inadequate support have a higher risk of depression. Use the resources out there to find a mentor (or two, or three…). Tap into your Linkedin network. Build a community of support around you (even if virtually!).

Last, take things ONE…STEP….AT….A….TIME! Be realistic about what you expect from yourself. Accept that you will not adapt to your new circumstances overnight and that loss or change may slow your usual pace and productivity down. Be kind to yourself. Seek help and support when you need it.

Although you can look ahead with clear goals in mind, focus on realistic steps you can take and nourish yourself with the tools needed to cope effectively.

Transitions are temporary. It is vital to be as grounded as possible. During chaos and uncertainty, it is important to maintain a strong sense of who we are. Do you best to be in the now and remember, it takes a village – no one should do this alone!

Be patient with yourself and your journey! And remember, laugh and smile often!

-Dr. Prete, Coach Destinee

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