The Only Person You Need to Trust to Create the Future You Desire… Is Yourself

Have You Ever Felt Like You Were Doing Everything Right, but Still Waiting for Someone Else to Recognize You?

That was me.

I walked into my annual performance review, confident I had earned a promotion. I had delivered results, checked every box, and done everything that was expected of me.

But when the decision came… I was passed over.

At that moment, disappointment hit me hard. But what hurt even more was the realization that I had spent years waiting—waiting for someone to acknowledge my potential, to pull me up, to tell me I was ready.

I had been waiting for permission to step into the next level of my career, instead of claiming it for myself.

I wasn’t lacking in performance. I was lacking in ownership of my own power.

For so long, I had been looking outward, seeking validation—when the truth was, the only approval I ever needed was my own.

Now, don’t get me wrong—recognition and mentorship matter. Having great leaders who see and invest in us is valuable. But here’s what I’ve learned:

Your success should never depend on waiting for someone else to notice you.

The moment I stopped waiting for others to open doors for me, I realized they had been open all along—I just hadn’t stepped through them. Suddenly, I saw what had always been there:

• New opportunities.
• New resources.
• New gifts and talents.
• New support systems.

The world hadn’t been holding me back. I had been holding myself back.

And I know I’m not alone in this.

So let me ask you:

• Have you ever hesitated to take the next step because you didn’t feel "ready"?
• Have you ever held back, waiting for recognition instead of taking action?
• Have you ever felt like you were meant for more—but stopped short of going after it?

If so, here’s what I’ve learned:

Success doesn’t come from being chosen. It comes from choosing yourself.

So instead of wondering, "When will someone recognize my potential?"—ask yourself:

"What doors are waiting for me to open them?"

Here’s how to start.

Where Are You Focusing? Byron Katie’s 3 Types of Business

Byron Katie teaches that everything in life falls into one of three categories:

1. My Business – The only things you can control: your thoughts, actions, and choices.
2. Your Business – What others think, say, or do (you have zero control over this).
3. God’s Business – External events, like the weather, the economy, or world affairs.

For years, I was trapped in other people’s business.

• “Why didn’t they recognize my contributions?”
• “Why didn’t they see my potential?”
• “Why was I passed over?”

Here’s the problem: The more time you spend in someone else’s business, the less time you spend taking control of your own.

Lesson #1: Stop trying to manage other people’s reactions and circumstances. Start managing yourself.

The moment you bring your focus back to your business—the things you can control—is the moment you take your power back.

Why Most People Don’t Trust Themselves (and How to Change That)

Why do we hesitate to trust ourselves?

• Fear of making the wrong choice.
• Fear of failure.
• Fear of judgment.

But let me ask you this:

When has waiting for certainty ever made you more successful?

Harv Eker reminds us that highly successful people act before they feel ready. They don’t let fear, doubt, or waiting for the "perfect moment" hold them back. They understand that clarity comes from action, not the other way around.

The difference between people who create their dream future and those who don’t isn’t intelligence or talent.

It’s self-trust.

• Trust that you’ll figure it out.
• Trust that you can handle setbacks.
• Trust that you are capable of more than you think.

How to Strengthen Your Self-Trust and Take Back Control

If you’re tired of waiting for permission and ready to step into your own power, here’s where to start:

1. Stop outsourcing your decisions. Every time you look to others for validation, you weaken your ability to trust yourself. Start making small, independent choices today.
2. Question your limiting beliefs. Byron Katie’s famous question: Is this true? If you think “I’m not ready” or “I’ll fail”—challenge that thought. What if the opposite were just as true?
3. Act before you’re ready. Harv Eker teaches that movement creates momentum. Don’t wait for confidence—build it through action.
4. Reframe failure as learning. Every mistake is a lesson. Every setback is a stepping stone. The only real failure is not trying at all.

The Future Belongs to Those Who Own It

Your dream future doesn’t arrive when everything aligns perfectly. It arrives when you stop waiting and start trusting yourself.

So ask yourself:

What’s one bold action you can take today to show yourself that you trust your own power?

No one else is coming to do it for you.

The good news? You don’t need them to.

What do you think? Have you ever caught yourself waiting for someone else to make things easier for you? Drop a comment—I’d love to hear your thoughts!

?? Want to explore what it would be like to have a coach help you step into your full potential? Let’s talk. I work with those who are ready to break free from limitations and create the future they truly want. Connect with me here: https://app.practice.do/me/noel-sotta-4/book/bold-vision-session-embracing-a-journey-worth-every-step

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References & Resources

If you’d like to explore these concepts further, here are some great resources:

Byron Katie – The Work & The 3 Types of Business

Byron Katie’s framework helps people identify limiting beliefs and take control of what they can truly influence. Learn more about her approach: ?? The Work of Byron Katie – Official Website ?? Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life – Book on Amazon ?? Byron Katie on “Whose Business Are You In?” (Video)

Harv Eker – Mindset & Success Psychology

Harv Eker is known for his work on financial and personal success, emphasizing how mindset influences results. Here are some resources: ?? Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth – Book on Amazon ?? Harv Eker’s Website & Programs ?? Key Lessons from “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”

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