Online Dating Is A Waste Of Time UNLESS You Do These 5 Things

By now you've probably tried online dating. And like my clients when they first come to me, you feel that online dating is a waste of time.

?You're frustrated with trying to get someone's attention and/or the back-and-forth messaging with no forward movement to the next step of having a video or IRL meeting!

My clients choose to work with me because they feel the same way. And yet when they follow my process, they will often meet their special person online within 6 months. Want to know how they suddenly become successful with online dating?

How much easier would having these relationship-building skills make dating for you? I’d love to connect and help you move forward in your relationship goals. The first step is to click the link in the comments.

Below are 5 suggestions to begin turning your online dating experience from a waste of time into a successful search for love.

1.?????Make sure your profile authentically reflects you.

What does that mean? It means you express your true-life goals and core relationship values, so you can connect with like-minded people. Don't make yourself something you're not. The right person will appreciate you as you are.

2.?????Put your relationship goals upfront.

When you share your true relationship goals, then those who don't share them will pass you by. That's a good thing. If someone isn't on the same page, then better to find out sooner than later.

Some of my clients tell me they're afraid to put that they're seeking a marriage partner on their profiles. They don't want to scare off a potential partner. However, if that scares someone off, then they're most likely not ready for marriage and it's best for you that they move on.

That way you don't want to waste your time exploring a relationship with someone who doesn't want what you want.

3.?????Show current pictures that represent the best you.

Would you like it if someone you meet has pictures that aren't current and don't show what they look like today? I'm sure you'd be ticked when you met them in person because they hadn't been upfront about what they look like today. You'd probably feel that online dating was a waste of time.

So practice the golden rule. Only post current photos.

It's also best not to go overboard when it comes to online dating photos. Keep them natural, and current so they present you in your best light. Then when someone meets you in person, you may even hear, "You look better in person!"

4.?????Set boundaries about how long you'll message someone back and forth.

Too much time-consuming messaging back and forth can make online dating a waste of time. So, know upfront that you don't want to be pen pals!

Set a timeframe for when you'll terminate a match as a guideline for yourself (there are always exceptions but be careful of false excuses) and stick to it.

After a couple of exchanges, one of you needs to talk about the next steps. If the person you're communicating with doesn't move off the needle, then tell them you don't engage in messaging without an endpoint. The right person will want to move to the next step!

5.?????Make sure your profile is a "nice ask".

I often read profiles that sound like a long list of demands. No one has to do anything! Watch your language for "demanding" language or tone. Use softer phrases like, "It would be great it..." or "It would be a plus if..." instead of "He MUST do this."

If you start including these practices in your online dating process, then instead of online dating being a waste of time, it will be worthwhile because you'll start meeting quality people, and, hopefully, the one sooner than later!

Now is the time to spiff up your profile so you'll be ready for the most active time online...after the new year!?

Would you like some direct help with attracting the right person online and making sure your profile is reflecting the true you? If so, then let's talk. Go to www.TalkwithCoachAmy.com to learn more.