The One Word Leaders Rarely Use

Part of Avery Blank's series of Forbes articles.

“There is no ‘I’ in ‘team.’” This is a familiar phrase used to remind people about the importance of teamwork and not being selfish. Great leaders are not selfish. Great leaders know they are part of a team and lead for others. Those who focus on others use the word “I” less. Still, they know how to maintain their authority. In developing your leadership, remember to:

1.     Use the word “I” less.

Instead of the word “I” all the time, say “we” or “us.” Let people know that you recognize their significance. Your leadership is only as valuable as the value you place on others.

Leadership is a two-way street. Leadership is a concept that encompasses not just the leader, but also the followers. When you use the word “I,” you suggest a top-down approach, which can feel oppressive to people. Words like “we” or “us” tells people that you lead for them and that your purpose is for them.

2.  Avoid saying phrases like “I think” or “I believe.”

There are particular cases when you want to avoid the word “I.” While you may think the use of the word “I” emphasizes your power, it can undermine your authority. This is the case with phrases like “I think” or “I believe.” Whatever you say is what you think. Whatever words come out of your mouth is what you believe. You don’t need to say to people “I believe.”

People believe in those who have confidence in their beliefs, and phrases like “I think” can suggest a lack in confidence. Those who are self-assured do not call attention to the fact that what they are saying is what they think. They just say it, without any preface. The next time you express what you think or believe, try not to preface it with “I believe.” Start off with your thought or belief.

Leaders seldomly use the word “I.” They recognize that their role exists to guide others. Leaders also know that they must act and speak in a way that makes people believe in their guidance. When you are a leader, be smart with the word “I.”

Do you find yourself using the word “I” at work? Share with me your stories and thoughts in the comments section below.