The One Special Habit that Changed My Destiny

I wrote this article to help people changing the perspective about life and things. I want to share my personal experience from depression to success. I hope you can also learn something from my mistakes & failures.

In everyone’s life, one moment comes, when they feel low, demotivated and worthless. It happened with me too. In a very early stage of my life, when I got my engineering degree. I was all set to find a new job, to explore new cities, to struggle for success. Even after fighting for like 6 months aggressively continuously, I didn’t get a single job. I gave up very early. I really regret that.

I went into depression. I could not think straight because of being jobless, hopeless, I was going crazy, lazy, angry, cursing the situation. All negative thoughts were coming through my mind; I couldn’t skip any of that. I stopped trying for any opportunity and it was really disturbing for me and for my family. I locked myself in the home and haven't talked to anyone for weeks. I always ignore people when they tried to talk to me. It became my routine, to envy people, skip sleep, food and what not.

After feeling worthless and extremely demotivated for like two months. One day after getting bored doing nothing, I took a newspaper to look at, and I read the famous quote at the top left corner by

Steve Jobs – “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?”

I self-answered immediately – “Of course, NOT” and I don’t know what comes into my mind that moment, I immediately went to my room and took a notebook. I wrote all the bad things I was thinking, all the fears in my mind, and what kind of life I expected to live, instead of what I am afraid of living.

I cried for a moment… It was all silence around me as if my life stopped for a min. That moment was self-realization for me. But, I forgave myself for being cruel to me. I felt relaxed, a lot of pain was gone from my heart and my head was really light. After a long time, I took a deep sleep.

Next day I woke up with a new soul, I promised myself whatever it takes to make myself happy I will do that. I started focusing on things which makes me positive, happy, alive like reading, writing, painting, & of course talking. I started reading different books, talking to different people, writing my thoughts - it pushed me to another state of mind, which was more peaceful.

Which was the habit, that changed my life?

From that day onwards I started writing about my day, my mood, my mistakes, my fear, my experience, etc.

I always made sure that -

“Today must be better than my yesterday.”

I never planned for long-term really. Once a week I turn the pages back and read all the fears and problems, I cut the problems which was solved.

Day by day I really noticed the improvement in me, in my attitude, in my soul. The result, I started loving and caring myself, I was filtering my thoughts by doing this, I was reviewing my weaknesses. I noticed some problems were getting solved on their own. I learned from my mistakes which I made and promised not to repeat it.

I still follow that practice to analyze my mood and try to fix it. Actually being happy can sort your life for long-term, not temporarily. I am saying because I am living it.

Some people might find it stupid to write your problems, but without keeping track of why you are worried you can't fix that issue. And cut-off the problems one by one from your list is the best feeling you should experience.

I hope you will find something to learn form it. It was my story from failure to success. I would love to hear yours stories too so that I can learn from everyone I know. Share your thoughts and stories in comments. What was your habit which changed your life?