The one question you're not asking

Dreadful people are strangely compelling ??

After nearly abandoning "Ripley" on Netflix for being bleak and plodding (warning - it lacks the sun-kissed enchantment of its previous incarnation with Matt, Jude and Gwyneth), my husband and I have found ourselves hooked.

Stick with it over the first few, slow episodes. You'll soon be fully immersed in its tense, noirish vibe as the net tightens around an icy (yes you can be hot?and?icy) Andrew Scott.?

Oh, and you'll also soon be shouting at Inspector Ravini, whose failure to ask ONE KEY THING allows Ripley to build lie upon chilling lie.?

"For the love of God, just ask someone?**&%^$￡@@(&^%!" ??

No, I won't spoil it for you.?

But take it from me, there's only one question - and damn it, it's a simple one - that's needed to unravel Ripley's monstrous web.?

But ain't that just the way of things.?

It's the question we're not asking that's keeping us stuck??

But here's the weirdest thing.

And see if you agree with me.

From my experience coaching hundreds of people, the question we aren't asking ourselves isn't a question we haven't thought of.

You're not a police detective who hasn't spotted the killer clue yet.

Who just needs another couple of episodes to figure out how the puzzle fits together.

Far from it.

The question you're not asking yourself is a question that deep down you already know.

You just don't WANT to ask it ??

Because the answer is likely to be challenging. Or uncomfortable. Scary. Exposing. Risky. Awkward.

Now I'm no mindreader. I'm not claiming I know what that question is for you.

In fact, when I'm working with someone 1-2-1 and they're stuck in the weeds, talking round in circles, I often don't need to find the killer question.?

I can simply ask them.

?? What's the question I really need to ask you right now?

Or even more interesting?

?? What's the one question you don't want me to ask right now?

Whatever your current career dilemma, I dare you to try it.?

I'd love to hear what you discover. Hit Reply and tell me how that landed.?

(As a fellow coach said to me last week, "I love it when people actually respond to my emails. I reckon they think I've got some big automated thing going on, when actually it's just me and a keyboard. It makes my day when I get a reply". You know what? Me too)

Stay curious,

Rachel?

PS. ? EXCITING NEWS ? I'm nearly done with my fabulous online LinkedIn course which is going to help you shine on LinkedIn (even if it currently looks like you possibly died 2 years ago). If you're one of the people who already expressed an interest in trialling it for me at an introductory price, look out for an email in your Inbox later this week. Fastest fingers first!

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