One day pain will become your strength

Let us understand that emotional pain makes a person a strong, stronger and even the strongest. The confidence behind my statement is because I myself am a good example to it. The thing with pain is that it needs to be felt and gone through. And during this tormenting time, it teaches you a lesson or two or may be lessons. Whether you become strong or not after the emotional pain depends on how well you were able to understand the lessons taught and how successful you were able to reflect it in your life.

And for this one needs patience, hope and lot of determination to not to let yourself down. Instead of complaining of your problems or asking why this to me questions, you can get ready to prepare yourself for the confrontation. And the key word that helped me for the confrontation was 'Equanimity' which is a calm patience, strength to accept the trials of life and rise superior to them. And the stoic philosophy that nothing happens to a man beyond which he is not bound by the nature to bear can actually help you to become stronger through the pain because all that you suffer is because you can do it and this can fill you with confidence.

Once you have gone through the emotional pain you never have to go through it again. It has strengthened you emotionally. If you haven’t gone through the pain, you will suffer the same pain over and over again until it is done and dealt with. After going through one pain you are emotionally stronger, you don’t need to experience the same pain anymore. But you might experience some different emotional pain, which again makes you stronger emotionally.

The one inflicting the pain is actually doing a huge favor, because you can’t go around buying for emotional experiences. They are given, not sought or bought. You will know soon if you have the same pain when a new person inflicts it. It doesn’t matter who inflicts the pain, the only thing that matters is how you handle it. I lick my wounds like a wounded wolf who has gone to a cave - alone. Cry out, feel sorry for myself and then in a few weeks the pain is gone and I’m as good as new, only even stronger than before, ready to take on new challenges.

Then one day emotional limits are reached and experienced, after that nothing gives you emotional pain anymore. Love is bittersweet and joy is intertwined with sorrow. Think about it, what do you want? To live without emotional experiences or to experience all kinds of emotions? Would you rather watch a painting for three years or have an intense romantical affair, which gives you the same emotions in only two weeks?

People are willing to risk their money by buying stocks, not knowing if the stocks will crash or not. Why aren’t people willing to risk their emotions? Sometimes it pays off, sometimes it doesn’t, but at least you took the chance. Emotional pain, is a type of pain that humans generally feel with most types of painful experiences.

And emotional pain, while it is pretty much a likely occurrence at least once in lifetimes of most living beings, human and animal and still these days - no, I do not think that this type of pain is essential for humans to experience, in order to become strong or to maintain strength, or morality for that matter!

We all live in a far less than perfect world these days. And while today's xennial, millennial and post millennial/xennials youth experience some conveniences in today's world that make our daily living somewhat more comfortable and as opposed to the earlier younger lives of our baby boomer parents, grandparents and great grandparents - there are still new difficulties that youth of today experience, that make today's living more difficult than it has ever been before in a sense - and that ironically closely accompany a lot of advancements that are intended to make life easier, and that actually do pretty much the opposite for a lot of today's people.

Basically hardships of today, related to modern relationships and to the hook up culture connected with newer technology, for instance, have attempted to encourage a greater amount of indifference toward serious commitment and the morality that goes along with it.That said, this is just one example of a significant source of modern hardship for a lot of youth of today, and along with some of today's modern conveniences - and this example is just one challenging experience that also can, and often does further encourage a lot of people to even more fully appreciate the importance and value of committed relationships that are moral as they are ideally more respectful.

And still, I believe that even without experiencing such a typical hardship as finding lasting committed relationships these days, many people could still be efficiently strong, and moral in character and in behavior. As I have stated more than once, and in more than one earlier answer in one way or another, yes indeed it is entirely possible for people to learn and to effectively practice moral and caring behavior, and without having to suffer in order to learn what morality means.

And finally this is also because, as we humans all learn by examples of the behaviors and the conduct of others around us - we will normally learn morality more efficiently, by the witnessing of positive and moral behaviors, as opposed to the witnessing of harmful and immoral behaviors of others. Cheers!