One Cynical Thing...Lesson Seven
Lesson #7:?Math be dammed; only idiots call themselves average.
Show me one person who intentionally shares an “average” selfie on a dating site and I will erase this entire section.?
Same when playing your own evaluation game. Always give yourself the highest rating you can. It is easier to start from a position of strength.?If a rating disagreement exists, your supervisor must contradict your explanation.?People do not like confrontation, managers probably don’t care that much, and most of the time, you’ll get what you want.?
On the flip side, never quote a true weakness in writing (this article aside, of course).?We all have them, so why publicize them??Everybody knows who's good at what and everybody knows who wants to get better.?If you are a manager, ignore the formality and just help people do what they need to do to get what they want.?
Sharing my reality, warts, and all is my way to not only pay forward the help I received but also move forward the conversation of how a woman can succeed in whatever way she wants.
Holding space for the past, acknowledging the present, changing the future. All the while increasing self-awareness, compassion, and service for others.
What was the?#onecynicalthing ?you wished you knew, did, or did not do?
I was shocked when I first started managing people how (nearly) all the men rated themselves as basically perfect while I'd been filling out these forms with information about growth needs etc. Truly eye opening. And related, if you don't ask for a better salary or promotion, managers aren't going to act since if you don't care enough to ask them, why would they spend time on it.