No one is coming!

Navigating the Complexities of Adulting: Insights and Empowerment

In my journey as a speaker, coach, and trainer, I've encountered a universal truth: adulting can be incredibly challenging. This revelation transcends roles and educational backgrounds, touching everyone with moments of self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy. Mel Robbins eloquently captures this sentiment, illustrating how we step into adulthood armed with charm and confidence, yet often find ourselves grappling with the same uncertainties years later.

What strikes me the most in my interactions is the profound loneliness that can accompany adulthood—even among those in high-profile positions or with significant personal achievements. This reflects a broader, shared experience that millions can relate to. Mel Robbins emphasizes a stark reality: no one is coming to rescue us. This realization hit me particularly hard in my thirties, shedding light on a path of self-reliance and responsibility.

No one will ensure we make it to the gym, motivate us to make that crucial phone call, or solve our financial dilemmas. This isn't just about taking responsibility—it's about recognizing the power we hold over our daily lives, relationships, mental health, and overall well-being.

Understanding this, we can shift our focus inward and start a more meaningful dialogue with ourselves. Our brain is a powerful tool that follows instructions, supports our focus, and prioritizes our safety. It's waiting for us to command it to reach beyond our current circumstances.

Here’s how you can start: aim for a larger goal, a bigger vision. Don't shrink back in fear; instead, reach for something beyond your current predicament. In doing so, detach from the emotional weight and think strategically. Ask yourself, "What would my mentor do?" This approach can open new possibilities and perspectives, pushing you out of your comfort zone.

Lisa Nichols, a renowned coach and author, once said, "Don't make me the hero when you're too lazy to become one." This powerful statement serves as a reminder that we are the architects of our stories. No one else is coming—it’s on us to reach further every day, and ultimately, to become the heroes of our own lives.

As my mother always said, "If it's to be, it's up to me." She couldn’t have been more right. Let's embrace this challenge and transform the way we navigate our adult lives.

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Kevin Britz - Leadership by Design