Once upon a time: What I learned from surviving office politics

Let's step into the time machine and go back a decade and a half, to a time in my previous life as a hedge fund analyst...?

When I started my days hitting the snooze button at 5:30am (had to be in the office by 7am), when I’d wear Kenneth Cole kitten heels that gave me bleeding shoe bites, and when I hated office politics so much... I'd get sick in the stomach.?

Literally, laid up in bed with a stomach virus or some other infection for days (and secretly relieved to have time off from work).?

At one point, I was making 50% of the going market range ($50K in a $100K job), relentlessly beating myself up for feeling too inadequate to negotiate for better pay, and constantly ruminating about what I could have said or done better to prevent a toxic boss from being the toxic a$$hole they truly were.?

It was depressing.?

Because I didn't know what I didn't know...

• That a micromanager's snide remarks and maneuvers to undermine my achievements said very little about me, my enough-ness, and my capacity to create value. But they spoke VOLUMES about their lack of people management skills, their lack of coherent thinking, and their insecurities...?

• That gender socialization had conditioned me to WAIT for external validation from superiors and colleagues, who weren't ever going to fill the deep need inside myself for my own validation and acknowledgement.

• That I hadn't yet learned how to give myself grace, or to be my own best advocate, which is a skill, just like putting together a PowerPoint is. (This skill-building can start today with something as small as putting together a win log in Google Docs.)

• That the experience of marginalization - as a woman in a male-dominated workplace, as an immigrant, as a person of color - had led me to witness too many instances of power being MISUSED by people in authority. Which led me to associate power with something bad...

• Which meant I was unconsciously REJECTING the evidence of my personal power, my ability to make things happen, the evidence of how I could be in control of my life and career... and so feeling “powerless”..

When, truth be told, I was a trilingual (English, Japanese, Korean), intelligent, and resourceful professional with plenty more promise and potential than my younger self could have imagined.?

Fast forward to the present where coaching tools helped me learn what I desperately needed to know.?Then I became a coach to help the women who, like me, hate office politics but love being good at what they do.?

I've since helped my clients negotiate and earn $3MM+ in incremental income with genuine self-confidence that feels good from the inside out.?

Here’s what you need to know about creating results that get you up-leveling and feeling good in your own skin:?

• It doesn’t need to take hundreds more hours of your precious time.?

• It doesn’t need to be all about “take it or leave it”?

• It gets to be simple, genuine and authentic to who you are.?

• You don’t have to pretend to be an unfeeling robot.?

• And you don’t have to hide, manipulate, and accommodate every difficult person who comes along in your career journey to become the kind of leader you want to be.?

That’s what a 6-month long 1:1 coaching series with me is all about.?

If this calls to you, I invite you to book your free 1:1 consultation with me.

We’ll use our time together to map out your Blueprint to Confidence so you’ll know exactly what a coaching series with me will look like, and you can make the best decision for you.

Talk soon,?

Jamie

P.S. Here's what Saeeda, an international consultant, said about working with me 1:1:?

Coaching with Jamie is like taking 3 Advils for mental pain and the effects don't fade.?

I learned that the reason I was getting so anxious and worried about rejection in my career is NOT because I'm a weak person, but because?I am trailblazing as a woman in a male-dominated industry.?

Learning that self-advocacy is an act of service gave me the courage to tell decision makers exactly what I want.?

As a result, I secured the exact promotion I wanted.?

Hey you, trailblazer, I see you.?You're invited to book a consult?and get started on feeling better, leading and advocating better today.