Is it okay not to like certain people?

A few days ago, my 10-year-old sister asked me a question that made me ponder deeply: “Is it okay not to like certain people?” When faced with this question, I took my time to respond, recognizing the weight of my answer. It wasn’t just a casual inquiry; it was a moment that could shape her perspective for years to come. I wanted to offer her wisdom that she could carry into adulthood, something she might one day reflect on and say, “My brother taught me this about liking people”.

So, let’s delve into the heart of the matter: Is it okay not to like certain people?

From my perspective, it is completely acceptable not to like certain people. This stance doesn’t stem from a place of spreading hate or negativity. Rather, it acknowledges the simple truth that we, as individuals, are not going to connect with everyone on a personal level.

I am not trying to preach but let’s consider some scriptures from the bible. In Matthew 22:37-39, Jesus commands us to love our neighbors as ourselves. Similarly, John 13:34-35 says, “A new command I give you: love one another as I have loved you and this is the greatest commandment of them all”. These scriptures and a lot more emphasize the importance of love. However, they don’t necessarily mandate that we like everyone.

Liking someone is more about the energy and vibes they bring into our lives. Have you ever encountered a relative or friend whose presence always seems to drain you, someone who constantly gossips or judges others? It’s natural to feel turned off by such negative energy. Liking someone means you have positive feelings towards them, enjoy their company and appreciate their qualities. This isn’t always feasible with everyone we meet.

It’s important to differentiate between love and like. Love is a broader, more encompassing command. We are created to love everyone, to wish them well and to act with kindness and compassion. Liking, however, involves a personal preference, a connection that may or may not be present.

So it is thus entirely okay not to like certain people. It’s also fine not to be friends with them. You can love someone in the sense of wanting the best for them and treating them with respect while still not enjoying their company or forming a close bond with them. Remember Love is a commandment but liking is a choice. I hope this perspective resonates with you.