Observe & Listen…!!!

These 2 things are most important to start a new conversation. And remember, how you start depends on how far you will go in a conversation.

First of all, see if the person is the same gender as you or not.

Because if he/she is of the same gender, then you can start easily, but if he/she is of the opposite gender, then start the conversation with a little bit of an unusual and mysterious way.

Usual is boring, so try to be a little different and interesting.

Observe first and wait till the good moment to start with. For example, you are traveling and someone sits beside you, first observe him/her carefully.

Then decide what kind of person he/she might be and accordingly start a conversation.

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Thank you?….Now, let me be more specific. Observe small things like if she has a tattoo or is wearing branded clothes/watches or what kind of luggage she carries or what kind of phone she is using or what kind of book/magazine she reads or anything. Then start with any one thing on which you feel you can talk more.

Start conversation with the things on which she may agree with you like don’t you think its too hot nowadays or people have very little traffic sense.

There are so many things like this. It's a trial and error kind of thing. It's a continuous process of learning that first try to understand the person and then talk sensibly.

Chances are more that you will get an answer from him/her. Then it depends on you how to make it interesting and where you want to take the conversation.

Start doing it and you can learn something from every single experience. Then apply it in your next conversation. Within a few conversations, you start doing it better and better.

Do you want to add a word or two?

Whatever you get the answer of your first question, you have to find something related to it to ask the next question on that. Moreover, you have to add something to make it interesting.

So, basically whatever answer you are expecting, you have to find 3–4 counter questions as well, that if he/she will tell like this, then my next question will be this. It seems a bit confusing now, but once you start practicing, it will be much much easier for you to think.

One talk goes into your mind and one actual talk goes on between you and the stranger. Then your mind starts analyzing the best reply, and you have to move on accordingly.

You t have to crack jokes in between if the other person is a girl. And believe me, girls laugh even on the silliest joke. That’s it…

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Body Language

Unfortunately, most people don’t think about their own body language. They might spend a lot of time thinking of the perfect words to say, but never realize that their body language and their words are sending very different messages.

For example, say you have had a long, hard day, but your friend wants to talk with you about something that they are struggling with. You obviously care about your friend, so you tell them that you want to talk.

But if during the conversation you are yawning, looking at the clock, and leaning back in your chair with your arms crossed, your friend might conclude that you don’t really want to talk with them after all.

They storm off, and you are left wondering what you said wrong. (Of course, you didn't say anything wrong—that’s the point!)

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