Nothing to Fear

Recently, my thoughts have been centered on how so many adults are afraid to say no or open up because they still carry the trauma from the past and believe that they would be scolded if they expressed their emotions.?

This trauma may be because of rejection, growing up in a verbally or physically abusive home, with abusive friends or teachers. Also, this type of parenting is common in African settings. African parents believe that to instill discipline in their children, they need to deploy various physical punishments. However, this is often combined with abusive and sometimes derogatory words.?

How does upbringing or childhood trauma affect us in adulthood??

Traumatic episodes manifest in diverse ways. For some, they would rather avoid having difficult conversations because they are scared that the other person might hurt them or scold them. For others, they become jittery, defensive, or anxious when you try to have a conversation with them. What parents do not realize is that these children end up carrying this fear and trauma into adulthood.?

As a result, many of them develop low self-esteem and loss of confidence in their abilities. In addition, we find that some of these adults isolate themselves rather than have conversations with family or friends.?

How do we overcome trauma as adults??

The first step is recognizing the issue and seeking a resolution. Sadly, many of these youngsters are unaware that their reaction to certain situations may be due to a traumatic episode.?

• Once the problem has been identified, help can be sought by speaking with a therapist.?
• Trauma can also be overcome through self-awareness. The person needs to realize that those who hurt them are no longer in control of their lives.?
• They also need to realize that they have the power to say yes, or no, and to distance themselves from any situation that may be harmful to their mental and physical health.?
• Lastly, we cannot underestimate the importance of positive self-talk. This means using positive affirmations like; I am strong, my past does not define me, I choose peace, I choose me, I set boundaries, I am in control of my life and future.?

Please see my previous article on Decluttering our Minds.?

To anyone experiencing trauma, I hope you find healing, love, and light.?

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Abimbola Geraldine Salau?

#DiaryofaResilientDreamer?

#Healing #Peacelikeariver #Setboundaries #Nomorefear #Light #Love #Bettermentalhealth #Healingfromtrauma

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