There is nothing bigger than your love

Tell me is love the end? Or is it just a means? Some care for money more than love. So for them money is the end. It is obviously not for you and me. People love many things and some will kill for their love. So they probably got the definition of love wrong? But we got it right? What if love is just a means for us to achieve something bigger than love? “What is that?” you ask. May be I know or may be I don't. For me, at this point, nothing is bigger than the truth. Love, hate, happiness, sadness are all just means for us to understand the truth. When I get the truth, something bigger will reveal itself.

I am not disagreeing with what you are feeling. Just keep taking the next step and don't get stuck in one thing otherwise you will get manipulated. Learn discernment as it is as much our duty as much is love. Because today's society has become very selfish, far too many people fighting for the right to do what each person feels is right for them. Too many people interested in instant gratification. Not wanting to invest in time and energy too seek out more satisfying pleasures like love. For many love is too much hard work. They are too busy enjoying sex and as long as the sex is good they call that love.

We as a society have lost our values. And love cannot exist in that environment. I see so many questions here about cheating. So to answer your question love has been replaced by sex. Sex is no longer an intimate expression of affection reserved for the one you love, But love has been replaced by the instant gratification of loveless paid sex. Respectfully, that is your opinion and can not be quantified with facts and measurements. So, while I personally do believe in love, I can see why others would disagree with you.

The real question is why are you so bothered by others belief of disbelief about love? If you know what you think to be true even if only in your mind, what does it matter if others don't see it?. We can only enlighten ourselves. Just as we can only free ourselves. I can tell others how important I believe liberty is, but i can not force anybody to desire it. Same goes for love. A very long time ago, a wise person told me that if I wanted to make a contribution to humanity, the best I could do is live my life in such a manner that others would take notice and ask me how I live so well (well as in my life is one of contentment and full of joy).

Besides love is one of many emotions. They all serve a purpose. Love is a useful emotion for bonding a group together so you can share resources and face enemies together. Fear and pain are definitely as strong or stronger then love because they often deal with immediate survival. There is value in love but the natural fear of being eaten might just save your life. Love is no more when the will to get or give love is no more. Words and actions can lie. But eyes and feelings cannot lie. Body language is also another powerful indicator.

For all those people who are singing pathos tunes because of loss of their love, be it a man or woman, I request you to think about the other unfortunate souls in this World who are merely surviving. Forget about a life partner, they won’t even have a chance to think about their food for the next time. At the same time, being poor or being deprived of love doesn’t necessarily require love. It depends upon the situation. Many times, love is very instantaneous.

Many people confuse love with kindness, affection, care, empathy and gesture. Those who are possessive about their feelings must understand that love is like knowledge, the more you share, the more you gain. I’ve seen different facets of love and life. From my view, the best way to approach it is not to get overwhelmed by it. Being like water droplets on top of a lotus is what will help. Closeness, be it physical or mental is just an enabler, it’s not something which should engulf your energies.

More than how to realize the lack of love, it is better if we start to realize where we can give and get it without any limits. Parents are good example for this case. They can give love without any limits to their children; even if they don’t get it back. If nothing is working, be a loner and love yourself. At least selfishness will save us from dreary thoughts. But when you feel like you are rebirthed- re energized back into love again and when you get mad even if they have friends that are girls, you feel jealous and that feeling is so rare that you dont know why you feel like that.

Also when you see them in real life you heart literally skips a beat and you feel your whole body blush and your face too. Also when you cant wait until they text you back. When you say I love you to them. And when you know them enough to get to their sweet and soft spots. Tell me when seeing them laugh gives you joy. When just their presence makes your day. When they smile, you smile, when they talk to you and make jokes, suddenly all of your problems disappear. When you got a crush, it’s just like “They’re cute or whatever” but with love, your attraction towards them is a whole lot more intense.

You miss them although you’ve just seen them a couple of days ago, you get jealous although they aren’t even in a committed relationship with you yet. You enjoy talking to them, it makes your day whenever their existence present. You appreciate them and wish to continue to make more memories with them. You’ll start to realize it’s more than just a crush if they were not to be there whenever you are, and if their smile just makes you scream out of happiness inside–it’s definitely more than just a crush. Cheers!