NO- you do NOT need permission

Be the Leader You’re Waiting For

Ever hear someone say, “I’d be a better leader if my boss knew how to lead?” The blame game is real, and it’s a surefire way to stunt growth. Sure, culture and environment impact us, but if we lean too much on these excuses, we miss the most empowering truth: Anyone can be a leader, regardless of their position or surrounding culture.

I’ve seen it firsthand—people completely transforming when they make the decision to lead from wherever they are. And yes, I’ve been there myself. Early on in a leadership role, I was not the supervisor you’d have picked out of a lineup. I was task-focused, rigid, and didn’t yet understand how to lead with empathy and clarity. But over time, I adjusted, grew, and yes, changed. I became someone who valued connection over control, and who people trusted to listen, guide, and collaborate. Was it easy? Not exactly. But was it worth it? Every bit.

And here’s the kicker: You can do that too. Whether it takes “tears or years” (probably both), growth happens when you commit to it.

Three Steps to lead without the title (Or the perfect boss)

1. Embrace ownership over blame Leadership isn’t about waiting for someone to give you authority or clear directions. Instead, it’s about taking responsibility. When something goes wrong, resist the urge to point fingers. Instead, ask, “What’s within my power to improve this situation?” By shifting focus from blame to action, you’ll naturally inspire others to follow suit.
2. Be consistent in the little things Big speeches and grand gestures are great, but it’s the day-to-day consistency that builds respect. Follow through on small promises. Show up on time. Support your colleagues in ways they may not even notice. This consistent effort doesn’t go unseen, and it builds trust quietly over time. Remember, actions set the tone.
3. Make room for growth and feedback When we allow feedback (especially the kind that stings a bit), we make room for growth. Seek out constructive criticism, reflect on it, and adjust. Leadership is as much about listening as it is about guiding. And the truth? The more open you are to evolving, the more those around you will respect and follow you.

Can people really change?

Absolutely. I know because I’ve seen it time and again. The people who lean in and do the work evolve into leaders in ways they didn’t expect. And here’s the proof: if I, someone who once relied on task completion over connection, could transform, so can you. It’s a process, but with a commitment to growth, you can lead, inspire, and create positive change, right from where you are.

The takeaway: Real leadership doesn’t depend on your title, team culture, or boss. It’s about what you bring to the table, day in and day out. And when you decide to step into that role, others take notice. So ask yourself: How can I lead today, regardless of who’s in charge?

P.S. Want to level up your leadership toolkit? Start with the basics: showing up, listening, and supporting your team—even if you don’t have a title. You’d be surprised by how far it can take you.

P.P.S. If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear about your own leadership journey. Drop a comment or reach out—let’s swap stories and insights on what it means to lead without permission.