New Year, New Intentional Language

At the start of each new year, many people choose a word to guide them—a focal point for clarity and intention. I’ve tried this practice before and found it useful.

This year, I’m shifting gears. Instead of a single word, my focus is on an intention: having complete integrity with my words. You might wonder, “Were you dishonest before?” My honest answer: “Maybe just a little.”

Integrity with my words means aligning what I say with my values and actions. It’s about honesty, accountability, and respect — ensuring my words are truthful and thoughtful.

Since setting this intention, I’ve become acutely aware of how often people stray from full honesty in their words. Even small moments can reveal cracks in communication.

For instance, during a coaching session, I heard about a leader whose habit of canceling meetings left their team member, Sasha, feeling undervalued and disempowered. Another example came during my own interactions. A colleague rescheduled a meeting for a medical consult. My first response was polite but generic. Only after reflecting did I offer more authentic words: “I hope you find relief for your back pain.” That small shift felt more genuine and aligned with my intention.

A tougher moment arose over the holidays. A house guest was mid-story while I, distracted by our schedule, blurted, “Stop talking.” It was abrupt and hurtful. A moment of pause could have produced something kinder: “We need to head out soon — can we continue this on the way or later tonight?”

Balancing integrity with kindness requires a thoughtful blend of honesty, empathy, and tact. It’s not just about speaking your truth but doing so in a way that values others.

This year, I’m committed to using my words with greater care, making them a tool for connection and respect. How will you be intentional with your words this year?