New Year – Has to be Different!

One more year is done and new one is round the corner. I am not going to wish you all the wealth, you know what I want to wish for u?

A peace of mind - joy - happiness - love - a little nap :) but more than that I would wish you the skill of not reacting. In other words - choose the way you react in a situation!!

If we can control our reactions...half the battle is won. For instance, you don’t like someone, would it help if you bloat up your face and yell at them/being silent and take all that acidic thoughts in your head, ruining your sleep and peace over it? Instead, don’t you think it would be nice if you can take a chill pill! Practically not be possible in every time but how about hearing some music or sleeping over it.

This year is going to be peaceful. 

 I have read somewhere - In a busy restaurant, a cockroach fell on a lady. Clearly horrified and panicked, the lady started yelling and in a moment the cockroach landed on another lady, more havoc continued. Later Mr. Cockroach landed on a gentleman. Now the man did not yell, shout or do a tap dance. He simply shrugs off the cockroach. Situation is somewhat similar here, the difference lies in how different parties have reacted when in a situation. We can take control of the situation by simply not reacting more than it is required. Point is how calm are you from inside.

 Let the experiences continue, take in all the odds, all the lemons and either just do not react or change the way you react, so that it won’t affect you much.

 Professionally:

Am very picky, I do what I like and believe in, no way I am going to listen to anybody. Yeah, it’s good to be yourself and to be your own boss. Does it affect you? Of course it does, trust me! I am a recruitment professional and at workplace I have a boss too, am sure everyone has. And not sometimes but most of the times, you and your boss, both have different views. Not that it’s any one’s mistake, it’s just that you two are different, very different. Sometimes situations are so tensed and when your mood has gone for a toss, the least you want is not  talking to anyone if not creating a havoc. But, can we afford to create any havoc? Clear answer is NO! Such situations should be taken as opportunities to think and accept - why do I have to take boss’s tantrums and why my boss has to take mine? I would like to believe that everyone comes to work to make their career and as we spend most of our day’s quality time at work, why don’t we make it easier and bargain for little peace. That would definitely solve many things, right? Also peace, productivity and satisfaction being the byproducts of it.

 A Change for a Change:

It happens to everyone at different times - you cannot have what you want the most. How should one react to it then?!

 Over Think? - Over thinking is the dream killer - you might get drowned in your own thoughts - No, Not that. 

 Should you be sad, cry or go depressed? Hang on, I am not saying do not react, but choose the way you react. Personally I chose to think less and learning to move on. There are two things that might generally happen when you are in stress - Numbness or Anger. I prefer numbness for a while, but not Anger. Idea is to let it not bother me. You gota be careful though - the depth of your Reactions/Feelings today might be the depth of your wound tomorrow, keep it on surface and remember it’s okay to lose people but never lose yourself.

 The life’s only obligation is to be HAPPY - anything in its way - Chuck it out

Anybody tells you to Change, I would say - Yes – May be I am not normal, I am not matured, and you know what, I don’t want to be. Why? It’s simple - coz I am me! Say everything you've always wanted, be not afraid of who you really are.

 People grow when they feel loved and that’s 100% true, when you are being told to change , you tend to be distressed . I am an expressive, happy person if that effects the way you treat me, then "Hey, Nice to meet you!” I am okay to be nonsocial but not be expressionless.”

 Here is the biggest culprit - chuck the word "it’s okay" 

No...It’s not okay, when you are an option, it’s not okay to let yourself take shit. NO. Start walking away from the things which threaten your peace of mind, sometimes walking away and staying both will kill you. Then in that case go with whatever makes you happy - When you chose Love you always chose Right, is my opinion.

Make it New:

Be selfish- spend the year on yourself - groom yourself mentally, physically, if it has to start by simple things like keeping your room tidy (applies to me), exercising, drinking water or reading a book - perfect timing - A change for a change.

Make a habit/activity of any sort, what possibly could happen - end of the year, you will find yourself involved into something, a new passion may be. Trust me, I cannot dance, but I instantly fall in love if I see anybody dancing. So, this year I am going to learn and improve my dancing skills, who knows by end of year I might be the super Groover :)

Have you heard the crack in a person’s voice when they are in verge of shedding tears? It does make me sad. Keep loving - don’t judge - making somebody happy would return the favor - have you ever heard the phrase – “what goes round comes around”.

After Thought - 

Don’t just stress about making a plan in 2016, human life is a compound of seconds - minutes - hours - days to months and years. What am trying to say is any minute any day can be used to make a plan.

So when the countdown begins and fireworks fly just sit relax and enjoy - not every eve is a New Year eve :)

And Good Luck Being YOU :)