New From Petra Russell: Bridging the Gap; Leading as an Autistic Manager

New From Petra Russell: Bridging the Gap; Leading as an Autistic Manager

In early 2023, we began sharing weekly content (see below) with a focus on neurodivergent leaders and we truly hope it has made a difference for you. PricklyPear is a company dedicated to serving neurodivergent leaders. As Executive Coaches and Leadership Trainers Ken Carlson and Petra Russell, PCC, CPC, ELI-MP have had the opportunity to work with hundreds of neurodivergent leaders and coach them through many leadership and workplace challenges.

In this week's newsletter Petra writes about one of her autistic clients wanting to improve their leadership.

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Bridging the Gap: Leading as an Autistic Manager

When my coachee first came to me, they were shaken by a tough realization: what they thought was helpful leadership was being perceived as condescending and even bullying. Feedback from colleagues had left them questioning their future in management, and, more deeply, whether their autism made them unfit to lead.

“I thought I was doing well,” they admitted. “But now I wonder if I’m even capable of being a manager at all.”

This wasn’t the first time they had struggled with misinterpretation. A similar experience in a previous role had ended with a demotion—despite their genuine passion for leadership. Now, history seemed to be repeating itself. The fear was clear: What if my autism is a fundamental barrier to being an effective leader?

Reframing the Narrative

As a coach, I’ve seen many talented neurodivergent professionals grapple with this exact question. The instinctive response is often to retreat—to believe that because challenges exist, leadership isn’t an option. But instead of focusing on the perceived barriers, we took a different approach:

  • Understanding Intent vs. Impact They weren’t trying to be condescending; they were trying to be clear and constructive. But intention and impact don’t always align. Together, we explored strategies to communicate with greater clarity and warmth, without compromising their directness.
  • Strengthening Self-Awareness Instead of assuming they would always misread social cues, we identified patterns—situations where feedback misfired, and what alternative approaches might work better.
  • Leveraging Unique Strengths Autistic leaders bring a lot to the table: structured thinking, deep focus, and a keen ability to spot inefficiencies. Rather than dismissing management as an impossible path, we reframed leadership in a way that aligned with their strengths. Could they lead with a coaching mindset? Set clear, expectation-driven communication norms? Build relationships based on shared goals rather than unspoken social rules?

The Breakthrough

Over time, my coachee didn’t just regain confidence—they redefined what leadership could look like for them. They learned to ask, “How might my message be received?” before sending feedback. They developed ways to clarify intent in conversations. They sought out neuro-inclusive leadership strategies that helped bridge communication gaps.

Most importantly, they realized they weren’t “too autistic to be a manager.” They were a manager who happened to be autistic—and who could lead in a way that was both authentic and effective.

A Question for You

Have you ever doubted your leadership potential because of how you naturally communicate or process information? What strategies have helped you bridge those gaps?

At Prickly Pear, we specialize in coaching neurodivergent professionals to lead in their own way—without masking, without apology, and without giving up on their aspirations. If you’re ready to explore what leadership can look like for you, let’s start the conversation. Connect with me directly here: https://calendly.com/ourtimeisnow/30min

#Neurodiversity #Leadership #Coaching #AutisticLeadership #InclusiveWorkplaces #pricklypearconsulting

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Past Articles: Neurodiverse Leadership Resource Library

Want more resources on neurodivergent leadership? We are finding and creating resources for you. Watch this section expand every week.

Feb 28: You Can Only Change Reality with Reality

Feb 21: Shelf Help is Usually Just That

Feb 7: New From Petra Russell: Unlocking ADHD Innovation: Coaching Strategies for Neurodivergent Leaders

Jan 31: If You Don’t Know by Now, Knowledge is Not the Key

Jan 17: More Resources on Your Neurodivergent Journey

Jan 10: Let’s Talk About Empathy

Dec 20: Leaders Talk to Themselves

Dec 13: They’re Called Coping Mechanisms for a Reason

Dec 6: Leadership is an Inside Job

Nov 22: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Nov 15: People are More Difficult Than Algorithms

Nov 8: Leaders Don’t Want to Be Victims

Nov 1: "He Only Cares About Himself"

Oct 18: Neurodivergent Leaders and the Power of One on One Conversation

Oct 4: How to Be Disciplined When You Just Aren’t

Sept 26: My Boss Doesn’t Listen, Now What?

Sept 20: You Can’t Manage Time—Even if You Have Neurodivergent Superpowers

Sept 13: Breaking Through the "Nerd" Ceiling

Sept 6: You Are Not Alone

Aug 30: More than Ever, Neurodivergent Leaders Need a Coach

Aug 22: The Enneagram and My Leadership

Aug 9: Do You Really Want to Manage Up? Start here!

Aug 1: The Difference Between Good Leaders and Great Leaders is How Much They Care (About People)

July 25: Better Living Through Chemistry—Until There is a Shortage

July 19: Coming Alive is What We Are Meant to Do

July 12: What Is My Purpose? What Happens When High Performers Feel Defeated?

June 28: The Art of Really Listening…Doing a Listening Fast

June 20: "It's Everything"

June 13: Listening to Completion

June 6: Embodying Resilience and Grit

May 23: Taylor Swift Can Do It With a Broken Heart—So Can You!

May 16: Neurodivergent Executives (Like The Yeti but Real)

May 10: Focused and Distracted at the Same Time

May 3: All Brains Belong

April 25: No One Told Me I Couldn’t Do That!!! Expectations vs Agreements & Neurodivergent Leaders

April 19: I Can’t Deal with THIS Person

April 12 : Being Smarter is NOT the Answer

April 5: All Executive Coaching Eventually Becomes "Life Coaching"

Mar 28: The Best Leadership is Service

Mar 22: Neurodiversity Week

Mar 15: Without Empathy We're Without Leadership

Mar 8: You Aren't Who You Think (Or Feel) You Are

Mar 1: Thriving Uniquely vs Suffering in Silence: The Benefits of Confidential Self-Identification for Neurodivergent Leaders

Feb 23: Who Needs Productivity Anyway? Did You See That Squirrel?

Feb 12: Emerging from Shame: Illuminating the Path to Neurodivergent Leadership Brilliance

Feb 1: Always Do Your Best Doesn’t Mean Always Do THE Best

Jan 25: There is Nothing Wrong but Something Is Missing

Jan: 19 What’s a Vision Anyway? Why Can’t They Just Do Their Jobs?

Jan 12: A Day in the Life of a Neurodivergent Leader: Navigating Autistic Demand Avoidance at Work

Jan 5: Redefining Autism: The Power of Self-Identification

Dec 21: Why Am I So Anxious

Dec 14: Cultivating Brilliance in Neurodivergent Leaders

Dec 7: Conversations Matter

Dec 1: The Trouble With Geniuses

Nov 17: Science Lesson

Nov 10: Living from Logic in an Emotional World

Nov 3: Communicating with Precision and Simplicity

Oct 27: Creativity and Innovation

Oct 20: How Neurodiversity is Making a Positive and Innovative Impact

Oct 12: It’s Lonely at the Top—Especially for Neurodivergent Leaders

Oct 6: Simply Different?

Sept 29: ADHD: The Kryptonite of It and Its Superpowers

Sept 21: Nerds (and Geeks) Are Leaders Too!

Sept 14 : Blind Spots: You Can't See Yours

Sept 7: People are More Difficult Than Algorithms

Aug 31: ADHD Kids Become ADHD Adults—but Sometimes the Tools Stop Working

Aug 25: Are you Dumb Enough to Manage Up?

Aug 18: Understanding the Avoidant Employee

Aug 10: Your Leadership is Not Served by You Thinking You are Less Than

Aug 4: Leaders Don't Want to Be Victims

July 20: Are You Overcompensating?

July 13: Why We Need the Outdoors

July 6: It's Not a Bug, It's a Feature

June 29: EMOTIONAL BIDS: What Do We Do When Someone Reaches Out to Us Emotionally?

June 15: The Boxes We Put Ourselves In

June 8: Please Just Tell Me the Answer!

May 25: Dyslexia and Leadership

May 18: Autism and Leadership: Advantages and Challenges

May 11: ADHD and Leadership

May 4: Hi Elon, I'd Like to Be Your Executive Coach

Apr 27: Surprise! Your Motivators are NOT Their Motivators

Apr 14: Managing Up Success Story

Apr 6: The Power of Routine

Mar 30: The Nerd Ceiling and Digital Body Language

Mar 22: Neurodiversity Makes For Better Leaders (Sometimes)

Mar 16: He Only Cares About Himself

Mar 9: Neurodiverse Leaders and the Power of One on One Conversation

Mar 2: What if My Neurodiverse Boss Sucks with People?

Feb 23: Why Am I So Anxious?

Feb 16: The Trouble With Neurodiverse Leadership (Forbes Article)

Feb 9: Your Straight Talk is NOT Authentic Leadership

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This article beautifully highlights the journey of neurodivergent leaders and the importance of reframing challenges into strengths. It's inspiring to see how coaching can empower individuals to embrace their unique leadership styles. What strategies have you found most effective in fostering inclusive environments? I'd love to hear more about your experiences!

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