A New Adventure: My Don’t-Call-It-Retirement Announcement

There are times in life when we are unmistakably called to make a significant change. This gut feeling can be so powerful and persistent, it’s impossible to ignore.?

I had that feeling eight years ago, when I founded The Disruptive Element alongside Paula Winkler. We both knew we needed to leave our corporate jobs, and we both shared a vision to start a human-centered company that looks and feels different to help people be their best. A company that revolves around brain science, evidence-based techniques, and inclusion. We turned that vision into a reality, and I’m so incredibly proud of what we’ve created. TDE continues to grow by leaps and bounds every year, earn awards and accolades, and make a meaningful difference in the lives of thousands of people through our game changing approaches, techniques, and passion.

However, the same feeling I experienced eight years ago—the urgent need to change my path—returned last year. Deep down, I knew it was time to move on to other pursuits. After careful consideration, I decided to step down as CEO (Compelling Experience Officer) of The Disruptive Element at the end of this year.?

Before I explain the “why” and the “what next,” I want to clarify that this isn’t retirement—not in the traditional sense, anyway. I plan on maintaining close ties with my amazing business partners, Paula Winkler and Donna Schumell, of The Disruptive Element, and still engage in client consulting as needed. Ultimately, I’m shifting focus and time spent on these activities to pursue…something new (more on that later).

Now, let’s address the why. If I’m so proud of The Disruptive Element and everything it stands for, why leave? Why now, when TDE is experiencing healthy growth and increasing impact?

The decision was not an easy one.

For many people, myself included, the COVID pandemic shook up life/business as usual and prompted a lot of self-reflection. As I was coaching clients on establishing routines, building a “new normal,” and overcoming feelings of trepidation and uncertainty, I was noticing a need to do this for myself.?

COVID came in like a lion, and I (along with the rest of the TDE team) was forced to make several quick adjustments—transitioning everything we do to virtual, dealing with isolation, welcoming a new business partner, and more. The world began undergoing extreme unrest, and I was along for the ride.?

Except, I found I couldn’t shake the feeling that something felt “off.” Unlike those who were able to bounce back and adjust to a new normal, I found myself resisting. This went beyond the pandemic and social unrest. I was exhausted, not because of the work, but rather because something was missing for me. As I tell my clients, “pay attention to your feelings.”? And I did!??

One technique we often teach our coaching clients is mindfulness. I decided to utilize the same mindfulness tools to examine my feelings of restlessness. I realized my tank was emptying much quicker than it used to.?

I love what I do.? However, I also love and need change —change I drive and change that allows me to do and learn new things in big ways.? This is what was missing.? My existing work began taking more energy to do. I needed to pursue some of the passions I had neglected over the years and find new ones. That is me.

Though it was difficult news to digest, my business partners honored my decision, and we began envisioning a Disruptive Element without me. We spent hours strategizing and restructuring, and I know the boat will not only sail smoothly without me, it will reach new destinations.

What’s next?

I have dubbed 2023 as the “year of figuring it out.” Unlike many people, I am perfectly content with ambiguity. Not knowing exactly what’s ahead excites me! I plan on taking my time, exploring my options, and stepping forward with enthusiasm and out-of-the-box thinking.???

While not much is certain, I do know a few things:

• I’m passionate about cooking, and the social aspects related to cooking, and I plan to explore this activity in more depth.
• I love to travel, and I’m certain I will lean into that passion.
• I’m a wine enthusiast, and I plan to (essentially) go to wine school. I’m the owner of a small vineyard in Argentina, and I intend to place more of my focus on this venture.
• I have always enjoyed being an innovator, often blending science with art. Expect more of that from me in upcoming years!
• AND…I will still engage in TDE client work on a part-time consultant basis, as needed.

While the path ahead isn’t certain, I’m confident I’m making the right decision. My gray matter is tired, and I know I will benefit from rest and a change of direction. I have loved building The Disruptive Element, and I can’t wait to fall in love with my next project. Stay tuned!