Never tell people your problems as they won't understand them

Benjamin Franklin once said, an once of prevention is worth a pound of cure. And though we use it to keep in good health, he was actually talking about fire safety. Let me add to it and suggest that discussing prevention will most like bring a solution to your problem. This is nothing new stating back to Biblical Proverbs ‘Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.’ Proverbs 11:14. First thing is that “Will telling our problems to others solve the situation ?” If the answer is Yes then go and tell your trusty friends or any one on whom you believe. And if the answer is No then don't tell to others. As many times telling problems to others increase the problems. According to the Law of Attraction when we discuss or think about any thing then those things always happens with us.

Keep in mind and be aware that you don’t spend your time in idle chatter because that could bring more problems. Our earth was created with the progression of [first the] seed, time, then Harvest and our words germinate whatever we consistently say, then turn into our tomorrows. You’ll want to tell wise people your problems for the sole purpose of getting a solution and putting it into action. I’d say not to every person you know, but only to those whom you trust most. Some people just don’t care much about the problems you have in your life, when they have their own most certainly.

Being expressive and not bottling up emotions caused by our daily problem is healthy for your mental. You could of course write out your problem - that way you have “express” it and sort of organize your thoughts first, before actually dealing with the problems. Also, it depends on what kind or how big the problems you are describing. We discuss our problems with others to feel better in a way, it’s our thinking nature. Some discuss more and openly while some keep it with themselves and hardly do, extroverts and introverts are what we call them.

Extroverts by sharing things more openly, feel better soon and less depressed while introverts keeping it with themselves, they feel more depressed and alone. We discuss and share our problems and feelings, so we may find a solution, when we share things it feels good, feels good that someone is listening and caring. It makes us feel less lonely (if feeling at the moment). It’s just in our nature, when others give solution we feel relieved and even better, so now we can apply it to our problem and get it fixed.

However I would say we should share these things only with the closest ones, most people share with their close friends but don’t get me wrong, they aren’t really the closest and friends can leave you anytime (I have seen them betraying as well). Society now a days avoid sharing problems with the closest ones, of course our own parents. I think if we do with them, they will provide us the best solution and they are the only people who are with us till the end of time.

What the problem is? If it is something minor or something that you think you will probably be able to handle yourself, then it might be better for you to solve it yourself. However, if you think it is eating you up from within and you can’t really take it anymore, it will probably be better for you to share it with someone because suppressing emotions that seek an outlet might be extremely detrimental to your physical and mental health. In fact, it has been proved to even cause cancer.

Who the people are? There’s this amazing quote I read which said, “It is better to be alone than to be with people who make you feel alone.” Look at the people around you. If you feel comfortable in sharing your feelings with them, you know they won’t judge you or you don’t care even if they do, then go ahead. Tell them. However, if you don’t want to put yourself out there then write stuff in a journal maybe.

Think of these factors and then decide what you want to do, because your question has no yes/no answer. You need to act on the basis of your situation. Some feel that we should definitely tell our problems to others but we should keep in mind that the other person has good intensions and will not use our problem against us. In short, the person should be trustworthy to whom we are revealing our problem. And also by discussing our problems, our attitude and the point of view towards that problem changes and we may get ideas to solve the problems. Cheers!