Never sever any relations unless toxic

Once you know it's a toxic relationship and has no future, try to part your ways asap. More you delay it, more it will take over. Don't handover the keys to your life and happiness to anyone else in this world. Because everyone is selfish, they’ll value their happiness over yours and even after knowing all this if you continue then you deserve to suffer. I know it feels like a dead end, you are not able to see life beyond and without that person, but believe me, it's just what we program our mind to believe.

Life goes on.. No matter what. It’s definitely easier said than done, but just try not to talk, not to be in contact, no matter what, meet friends..new people. Read or do whatever you love doing but keep yourself busy all day till you are tired enough to just sleep, pursue a new hobby or start some physical activities (gyming etc) it really helps to divert mind. It's nothing but a ‘learned helplessness’ that we keep sticking to. Understand this and live for yourself.. your happiness..be selfish. You deserve happiness not someone's toxicity! Just keep busy.. though it's difficult but not impossible.. and definitely the need of hour. I know you can do it!

Because after a certain period of just looking at yourself, your partner, your ability to see clearly is impaired. Given that is highly likely (a person can realize that his current judgement is wrong given his stressed state of mind), similar as in a firm, you’d always ensure to ask a co-worker or a friend - “I’m unhappy blah blah” - and throw the whole booklet open hoping he will pull you out of it. If all you did your entire life is pool people around you who always agree with you;

Your relationship will break, and most likely you yourself as well. This is what you call a destructive loop. You never heal. Nor progress. If all you did your entire life is pool people around you who are equal peers, who have the ability to self-reflect argumentatively, and on their friends, people who have a constant drive to move forward; They will smell all the toxicity of a potential relationship miles away - and you would have left before you would have had a horrible divorce, a full break-down, the lot. You get out of a toxic relationship by ensuring you got a good set of friends before you got into one. I’ve seen group 1 and group 2 so many times in my personal life as well as in my professional life with co-workers I've known for 10–15 years.

If you forgot that step - all the usual 101 psychology quotes - blah blah - it won’t do you any good. At some point that toxic relationship will break - (everyone has a breaking point) - and you simply start again - create a supportive group of friends around you - this way you are capable of learning self-reflective skills. They will be able to tell you always go for the same kind of asshole or gold-digger and, if they are your friends, wouldn’t allow for it. Sometimes someone needs to hold that mirror for you - if you ain't strong enough. Now looking back 20 years - they weren’t wrong. Start walking away and don’t look back. Toxic individuals are designed to manipulate and control your behaviors, making it that much harder to leave. Toxic people fall under two categories threatening and nonthreatening.

The threatening toxic person is manipulative and often uses fear tactics to keep you within the relationship. This fear often leads to low self-esteem and self-worth in which you begin to feel inadequate without that person in your life. You begin to question whether you will be able to move forward without them. These individuals are controlling and very manipulative. They will use phrases like, “you will never find anyone like me”, “you can’t leave me”, or “where are you going to go if you leave”. These type of comments are aimed to lower your self-esteem to the point that you stay trapped in the relationship.

No, it’s not that easy. It requires making a conscious decision and reminding yourself of that decision. There was no magic here. I made these decisions and I needed to constantly — remind myself of these decisions. I reminded myself of how severely toxic this relationship had been. Every time I found myself thinking “oh, just this one time, what harm could it do?” I reminded myself of the conscious decision I had made. Cheers!