Never say "I want my way of apology"

Why would love die? I find it interesting that so many people ask this question about how to keep love in a relationship. I’ve never seen anyone asking: how can I keep loving my pets, or: how can I keep loving my children, or: how can I keep loving my best friend. Somehow humans are able to sustain love in all sorts of relationships. Somehow humans are able to keep loving their dogs, their cats, their children, their friends, even when they become old, fat, wrinkly, but when it comes to the relationship that is supposed to be based on love, that is supposed to be all about love - the love can’t be kept alive. Why is that? Clearly we can keep love alive in some relationships. Humans who can’t stand each other and decide to get divorced still love their pets. Maybe we can keep love alive in a relationship by loving our partner the same way we love our dog, our child, our friend. Truth?

"We have a human tendency. Many, cannot digest or accept others holding values which seems extremely difficult to possess by themselves. In pursuit, the disbelief takes toll over them forcing them to fantasize the next person to be an equal sinner, just like them. This heats up the invisible bond of relationship, there by losing the strength and vanishing the odour of memories which were the outcome of love." True? Read the paragraph again. Little slow this time. Let me tell you how not to weaken relationships. Be loyal. Loyal to every relationship. Not 99.9999999%. Make it → 100%. Give your best and watch the rest in place. I know you must be thinking, only I being loyal won’t help. What about him? Friend,

You have no control over the other half of the relationship. Let your half be complete in this relation and the relation will be more tending to greater than 1/2 towards → 1. And 1 is complete. We fight frequently. Yesterday we squabbled over something, and it was clear that it was her mistake. I am sure she too realized it, as she was trying everything to make me smile. Her action, her soften tone, everything was pointing out that she felt bad about her behaviour. But then she did not come forward to apologize directly. This is what happens almost every time, she never talks directly about ‘why’ we fought, and where did she make the mistake. And that is often not good for me. I accept direct apology, nothing less. But this makes the things harder. Things don’t mend easily between us. I love to point out that she was rude or she acted badly. I make sure that she apologizes the way I want, not the way she is doing.

In short, I never accept ‘her way’ of apology. But I felt it was wrong when I read an article couple of days ago which said: ‘We have to be open to our partner’s attempts at making repairs from the beginning. It’s better to accept them the way they are. That is the only way to have loving relationship.’ After we talked, I realized that I do the same every single time. I want ‘My Way’ of apology. However, what is important is to make a conscious effort of choosing love over the need to be correct. Nothing makes a relationship stronger than accepting the partner the way he/she is. And here is something I learned today, ‘Squabble’ which means ‘Argument’ or ‘Difference’. Cheers!