Never reply when you are angry and never take a decision when you are sad

All it means is that it’s not highly recommended for people who are being controlled by their anger to make any impactive decision. When we are angry, we would say stuff we don’t even mean, do any reckless thing that’s never crossed our mind before. In this case, letting anger to have power over us which mostly leads us to make decision that—we thought-would be the best but turns out that they’re not. By the time we realize that those decision are the thoughtless ones, it would cause regret, it might be temporarily, or even worse- haunting us for the rest of our lives. That’s why it’s totally dangerous if we make decisions with our heads being about explode and unhealthy emotion burning down our chest.

Of course it means you are too heated to make a rational decision detached of negative emotion, so it can lead you to something you regret, and therefore, you shouldn't be making decisions whilst angry. Because your anger will distort your view of reality. People normally make crappy decisions when they are angry resulting in making the situation at hand worse, instead of improving it. Thus, people are advised not to make decisions while they are still angry.

The problem with us is not anger , but the underlying cause of anger in us. There are thousands of tips you will find online which will say things like 'Whenever you get angry, the first thing you should do is close your eyes and take deep breaths for a while'. We need to keep a watch on your current anger level and when you sense that you're about to lose your temper, do something to distract yourself and improve your mood. Like making a joke to break the tension or remembering a happy memory.

What happened in your life that triggered the angry response from you? The past is responsible for most of our anger and not the past itself, but us clinging to the past. The rest of the anger is caused by worrying about the future. Whatever you lose your temper on is just a trigger not the real cause. Let me explain with an example. A Lift at a Gym is waiting on the first floor. It is overloaded of 250 something pound muscular gentlemen.

Just as the door is about to close a scrawny man starts running, ”Hold the elevator” he screams. The gentlemen are gentlemen and they hold the door. The thin man gets in and the lift snaps and falls down a floor. As all the gentlemen are rescued, one of the strongmen catches the thin man and yells ”you did this” Did the lift fall because of the thin man who came in last ? Who exactly is responsible for the lift falling? There are no easy answers to anger too. It builds up over a period and display of short temper is just a release of all the pent up anger.

To understand anger , we must understand the human personality first. But at a deeper level the whole process is just a process of self discovery. “When you have no where to go, you may drive rashly. But if you are sure where you are going is really important and you will leave on time, drive slowly and reach before time !!!” So find your direction, your passion and you will become so busy fulfilling your passion, that there will just be no time for anger.Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit #ks1000articles #proudtobeindian