Never live with the problems of life

A famous writer was in his study room. He picked up his pen and started writing: Last year, I had a surgery and my gall bladder was removed. I had to stay stuck to the bed due to this surgery for a long time. The same year I reached the age of 60 years and had to give up my favourite job. I had spent 30 years of my life in this publishing company. The same year I experienced the sorrow of the death of my father. And in the same year my son failed in his medical exam because he had a car accident. He had to stay in bed at hospital with the cast on for several days. The destruction of car was another loss.

At the end he wrote: Alas! It was such bad year!! When the writer's wife entered the room, she found he husband looking sad lost in his thoughts. From behind his back she read what was written on the paper. She left the room silently and came back with another paper and placed it on side of her husband's writing. When the writer saw this paper, he found this written on it: Last year I finally got rid of my gall bladder due to which I had spent years in pain. I turned 60 with sound health and got retired from my job. Now I can utilize my time to write something better with more focus and peace. The same year my father, at the age of 95, without depending on anyone or without any critical condition met his Creator.

The same year, God blessed my son with a new life. My car was destroyed but my son stayed alive without getting any disability. At the end she wrote: This year was an immense blessing of God and it passed well!! See!! The same incidents but different viewpoints. If we ponder with this viewpoint that what could have happened more, we would truly become thankful to God. It is written in the Holy Book: "And indeed, your Lord is full of bounty for the people but most of them do not show the gratitude"

Aside from every problem we are faced with that are actual problems, large or small. If we were given an existence with no problems, where every last thing was seamless, perfect, and divine, we would find problems. Because that’s what the brain does. Its evolutionary job is to help us avoid danger. It is not designed to calm down when it can’t find any, it is designed to find danger. Even if that danger isn’t real, the brain absolutely does not care, because it has come up out of four billion years of only the sharpest, scariest things making it, being hunted in the deep sea, in the muck of the shores, and across all the savannas. We are not designed to not find issues with our environment. Everything that was ever made that way is dead and extinct.

There's a limit of how much you enjoy your privileges, and the limit is too short, and you start getting bored and irritated of those privileges; they lose all meaning. You don't know why to wake up tomorrow? And then you surround yourself with temporary highs and pleasures, like alcohol, drugs, casual sex etc, which further degrade your life. Problems are the cure; cure to fickle mindedness. They channelise your mind and energy towards that one issue. You think about it, curse your fate, plan to deal with it, you act towards it, you practise self-pity, you may succeed or fail, but you know what to do.

You know, what's urgent, important in life, you don't have a choice to wander freely and activate devil mode of your mind. For example, being with many elderly people for years, I made one observation. When you become free of most responsibilities, you have a retired life, the problems and issues of ordinary life are sorted, you start focusing more on the problems of your body, a minor pain may bother you much more than before, you would start observing almost non-existent symptoms and overthink about them. It's true that our body faces issues with age, but I am pointing out this beyond the scope of that truth. We create problems or exaggerate them because we don't have relevant problems to deal with.

I know one person who became an alcoholic after getting a sudden inheritance. He had no struggles and hence no direction in life. I know many people who live a relatively hard life; they do physical work for hours and hours each day, just to manage survival. It's not that they don't crib, but they are relatively happy and engaged in life, they stay engaged in their issues, work, and routine, and on the contrary, I know some really rich people, who have lost all direction in life, they hop from one party to the other all day, enjoy alcohol and drugs, and are depressed and directionless. This also depends from person to person and cannot be considered as a fact of life but a general opinion.

Life is a journey with so many speed breakers. Everybody in this world is facing trouble. The only thing is that how you tackle those problems. You say I have so many problems and some other person says he has every trouble in the world. You need to understand that problems are the most beautiful thing that we have in life. A life without problems will be dull and with no excitement. When you feel you have so many troubles just thing of a man who has no place to live. He lives at the footpath and have nothing to wear in winter nights. Most of his days are without food and no toilet facility. You might think it's a fictitious character but my friend this is a bitter truth.

You should thank God for all that you have today. You are discussing these things online with us. You have a smart phone that says a lot about your leisure. You have home ,friends , family , food and still you feel you have troubles. Next time if you feel so just think of that bigger that you met the other day on the road and you will realize about the happiness you have in life instead of your so called troubles. Life is like countless crossroads, and you standing confused in between where to go where not to go; problems give you a direction to walk, “look, this is urgent, walk here first,” and yes, walking does bother you, but what else shall a human do?” A perfect life is a dull life, a meaningless tale of existence. Respect your problems. Cheers!