Never Done

We all know that sinking feeling of ‘never done’.

We might say to our friends “There’s just no end to it…” referring to the relentless change, escalating work projects, ongoing family commitments, and never-ending to-do list of a modern woman in a world that is always ‘on’.

?? But what if ‘never done’ is the greatest gift humanity has?

Bear with me on this.

For one thing, if we accept ‘never done’ as a principle of life, it means we can stop being frustrated that we can’t seem to clear our desk, get on top of everything, reach the nirvana of a blank to do list. Instead, we can relax and be at ease amid the continual demands for our time.

For another, it guides us into the wisdom of learning, growth mindset, and process in the way we relate to our life and work. We can allow room for magic and mystery. We can open into possibilities. For example, the portfolio career that we dismissed when we held a more rigid stance, might now reveal itself as an interesting and feasible solution to our work and life dilemmas. Living in a different part of the country (or world) might become an opportunity we are willing to explore, rather than a ridiculous notion to close down.

??The healthy expression of ‘never done’ brings neither exhaustion nor despair.

Instead, it becomes a safe and exciting space that has the strength of your inner steadiness to rest on, the wisdom of your clear read of the environment for guidance, and the resilience of your capacity to overcome challenges to move you forward. Regular readers of Midlife Magic will recognise the building blocks of the four-part IRON pathway to thriving (and our previous three newsletters) tucked away in that sentence.

Inner Steadiness, Reading The Environment, and Overcoming Challenges all prepare you to accept the wonderful invitation of the human life to be Never Done and keep on changing.

Keep on changing

Heraclitus of Ephesus is thought to have said ??It is in changing that we find purpose??.

This ancient wisdom urges us to keep changing to live a life of meaning. It aligns beautifully with the principle of ‘never done’ and my belief that never done isn't always about achieving more, but it is always about becoming more. This is hard to realise without the rub of change. That's why embracing change even when it's relentless and feels hard, is an invitation we want to accept. When we embrace change co-creatively, both making decisions that shape it and allowing ourselves to be shaped by it, we continuously grow and evolve.

Something to ponder

If you accepted ‘never done’ as a positive invitation, and trusted your inner steadiness, capacity to read the environment and resilience in overcoming challenges:

?? What would be next for you?

?? What is it that you truly want at this point in your life and work?

?? What’s possible now?

Should these questions already be alive for you and demanding your attention, I have two openings for 1to1 clients on the Six Session Leadership Adventure coaching programme.

BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL with me HERE if you’re interested or DM me and we can arrange a time.

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?? Hello, I'm Amanda Muckalt, and I specialise in helping midlife women in leadership to thrive in change. If you want coaching support in your leadership you can DM me or e-mail me at [email protected] as a first step.

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