Never Not Compromise
Born with a golden, silver or no spoon at all, every human goes through all the basic intricacies and cyclical troubles of life. If you are not careful enough your actions (or misactions) and attitude (or the lack of the right attitude), your no-spoon misfortune will catch up to you, and neither the golden spoon will stay nor the imaginary fortunes.
Life is complicated beyond understanding, there is no second opinion on that, but that is because the simple basics are often overlooked or not focused on or taken for granted, knowingly or unknowingly; people, many of them, leading life in such ways, don’t do justice to their lives, and if they continue without care for actually continuing, they fall, sometimes hard, into the ever-vicious loop of adversities.
With the above backdrop, and a zeal to either build life or fix life, make things right or make things perfect in life, here are, call them what you want, the key elements/pillars/thumb-rules of life:
? Plan your career, stay focused on it, plan alternatives and maintain the focus for for a really long term, for the long haul, for life.
? Do not get distracted by too much entertainment, too much socialization, too much sleep/laziness/procrastination, or just the simple pleasures getting too often, too complex, too time-consuming and/or too expensive.
? Plan a personal life, granted your age and the times you explore, learn, and grow into a so-called mature state of mind. Regardless, you have to grow out of it and have a settled goal, keep focused on your partner, with unwavering integrity.
? Plan, Grow and Manage your finances. Yes, it sounds like the slogan for a financial product/service, but that’s actually the golden rule that undoubtedly and unflinchingly binds all the above and following elements/pillars/thumb-rules of life, period. Save from day one of getting free pocket money, through your initial career and throughout the process of building your career.
? Be healthy. Your health is your natural asset, and the most valuable one, take very good care of it. No matter how clichéd it sounds - Eat healthy, exercise, be wary of what you consume and what you’re missing out on. Being healthy is the first natural step and last conclusive touch to everything you set out to do in life.
? Train your brain. Whether your brain is inclined towards the left or to the right, you need to be smart and intelligent, and yes there is a difference. Be actually smart, intelligent and sharp, exercise your brain, play brain teasers, take quizzes, read current affairs, be in the know of new technologies and trends, keep learning and training your brain. Your cognitive skills, your response times, your information processing, and even your memory, all are extremely important, and if you have any condition that robs you of such skill (or pride) amidst people, even loved ones, be proactive enough to study yourself, study the solutions and find help around you, and work on yourself thoroughly and religiously, as much as you can.
? Be a people person, even if you are an introvert, because you can be both, and this has been clarified and proven by modern psychologists. Meet people, make friends, learn from them, make friends to rely on and help them genuinely so they’re there when you need them, and interact with people with smart persuasiveness and be in their good books.
? Invest, and keep investing, whether you choose high-risk or low risk options, mostly depending on your financial capacity of taking risk, such that if you loose all that you’d still have enough to make another round of investment, while having aside your family and personal savings.
? Be open, be flexible, be patient, be resilient, bend or bend over if you need to, but be committed to anything you do or pursue in your career. Of course, do not tolerate perpetual unethical treatment or actions beyond inhuman levels. Be assertive and be alright only if you can, or move on, but BE PATIENT and RESILIENT.
? Be humble, there is no substitute for humility, whether you are with your family, cousins, colleagues, bosses, girlfriend/wife, or friends. Never, absolutely never tickle or massage your ego and if you are in a challenging, instigating situation refrain from focusing on the comparisons, competition, or insults and if if you cannot then extract yourself from that environment instantly, regroup and re-enter with a calm mind.
? Be proactive, in everything you do, both personally and professionally, be ready before others expect you to be. Be there for your clients, your colleagues, your bosses, your friends and most importantly your family and loved ones, readying yourself with all the equipment and solutions that help them before they squint or raise their eye brows instead of cracking a smile. Be Accountable and Responsible. Take ownership.
? Take critique and criticism, constructively, even if they weren’t meant that way or they were not correct, remember – patience, resilience and humility. Maintain your dignity, but not at the cost of being left alone or ignored or agitated against.
? Keep learning, for upgrading skills in your career, to learn better ways to solve problems, to handle yourself and people around you better, or to cope with something as simple as ageing. Never stop learning, always find time, even if that’s for thirty minutes before you sleep, even after a long day, except, of course, a day-off per week or special days.
? Be alert, cautious, of your surroundings, your social, official and personal environments, and be observant, listen more, and even lend an ear or two, and form your opinions, sentences, and approaches accordingly. Allow others to make their point/case and soak everything like a sponge and store more information in your head, remember, train your brain.
? Love your family, be involved with your family, contribute to your family, and apply all the above thumb rules with extra care and affection of course.
? Respect Time. Of all the adjectives, the one almost always used to describe time is “precious”, and its intrinsic value is incomprehensible. Understand the value of the hours, minutes and seconds that exist and then go away and never come back. Do things, study, earn, love, exercise (body + mind), multitask, get creative, take care of your loved ones, all when you have the time.
Whatever you do, however you do it, you must, in some way or the other, apply these life elements to make the most out of your life, and achieve what we all seek – Peace and Happiness. And, in order to apply the above and to achieve peace and happiness, you have to ‘compromise’ on a lot of attractions and temptations of life, beyond the nominal mental reboots, compromise when you have to do a job by letting go of your ego, and compromise with your emptiness, your laziness and the causes of your divided attention. Compromise with the Bad, and bring in the Good. Never Not Compromise.