Networking for the Reluctantly Social
Erin Buttermore
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We've all been there – the season of endless social events. While extraverts might revel in these occasions, for us introverts, it's often a countdown to when we can finally kick off our shoes and relax at home. I confess, I'm a bit of a socially awkward soul myself. Yet, I've come to realise that networking is not just crucial for career advancement; it can actually be quite enjoyable.
Think about why you're at an event. It's not to lurk in the corner! Challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone and engage. Remember, you're there to connect, not just make an appearance.
??Focusing on Others
Most people are just as nervous as you. They're hoping for a meaningful conversation, so why not be the one to initiate it? You might be surprised how grateful they are.
??Who to Approach: The Croissant Strategy
Thanks to the brilliant Robbie Samuels LLC (Multi-Passionate Entrepreneur) , I've learned to look for 'croissants' not 'donuts' in a room. A 'croissant' group is open and approachable, standing in a semi-circle. Walking up to them and asking to join is less intimidating and usually welcomed. It’s a simple yet effective way to break into conversations.
??Rescuing a Loner
Spot someone standing alone? Chances are, they're eager to chat but unsure how to start. Reach out to them, and you might just make their day (and yours).
Ever been inspired by a speaker or followed someone's work online? Don’t hesitate to approach them. As someone who’s on LinkedIn regularly, I can assure you they'll appreciate knowing their work is being recognised and valued.
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In an ideal world, you'd be seamlessly woven into a conversation. But let's face it, things can get awkward. Be prepared with conversation starters like, “What brings you here tonight?” or “Any presentation that stood out for you?”
????♀?Keep the Conversation Flowing
Treat conversations like a game of hacky sack – keep it moving. Share a bit about yourself, then pass the ball by asking someone else a question. It keeps the interaction dynamic and engaging.
????Mastering the Art of Exiting
Remember, networking events are for mingling. Don’t stick to one group too long. To exit gracefully, use lines like, “I’m sure others are keen to chat with you too, so I’ll make a move.” It's polite and allows you to circulate without feeling awkward.
Always follow up with new contacts within a few days. Whether it’s a LinkedIn connection or an email, it helps solidify the new relationship and keeps the momentum going.
Networking doesn't have to be daunting, even for us introverts. With a bit of strategy and practice, it can become a less stressful and more fulfilling experience. What are your networking tips? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
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1 年Some fabulous tips in here - as I say its always about who you know and adding value always. I particularly love "Ever been inspired by a speaker or followed someone's work online? Don’t hesitate to approach them. As someone who’s on LinkedIn regularly, I can assure you they'll appreciate knowing their work is being recognised and valued.". One of my 1% pieces of advice is to say "Thank you FOR.....". Sounds simple but trust me, as a speaker, very few people do this..and yet those that do I always remember and support into the long term. Its all about building transformational connections and saying "thank you for" requires thoughtfulness, intentionality and a commitment to reflecting on the impact someone has had on you.
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1 年I'm a passionate extrovert (with introvert spills) so networking is my jam Erin. But that said, I prefer to walk into a room when there are fewer people. So here's another strategy for introverts: come early! Join the event early, and you might find only a handful of people there. It's way less daunting than walking in a room full of people, and you might find you struck up a conversation more easily.
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1 年Erin, thank you for sharing this. I’ve not heard the term, ‘reluctantly social’ before but it is spot on. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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1 年Absolutely insightful, Erin! My tip: ask open-ended questions like "What's the most interesting project you've worked on?" to create engaging conversations.
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1 年Erin Buttermore following up after the post event is the most important for me. We can only develop relationships further when we give time and energy. Build it before you need it! Great stuff mate!??