Networking for newbies

Welcome to this week’s edition of The Confident Candidate, where we turn the spotlight on networking. Don’t click out just yet—this isn’t an extrovert’s guide to nailing networking events. It’s a practical haven of tips for those of us who find networking challenging and far from fun! Whether you suffer from social anxiety or you’re just not a huge fan of small talk, this week’s newsletter will make you feel more supported and prepared for your next networking gig. From navigating events and perfecting your elevator pitch to utilizing ‘weak ties’ and building offline connections, we’re here to help you transform networking from a challenge into an opportunity.

Expert tips on networking when you have social anxiety

When it comes to landing a job, there’s no denying that knowing the right people gives you an advantage—and who you know relies heavily on your connections. According to a 2022 report from Reventify that polled approximately 250,000+ professionals, 42% of respondents said they found their current job thanks to some form of networking. If you’re naturally outgoing and love meeting new people, putting yourself out there to network is a breeze. But if social situations give you the jitters, then networking probably feels like a chore you avoid doing.?

If you get a pit in your stomach when you hear the word ‘networking’, don’t let opportunities slip away just because your fear throws you a curveball. To find out how to conquer your social anxiety when meeting new people, we spoke with Scott Treas (MA, LPC), founder of Colorado-based LifeSketch Counseling and Coaching. Treas blends life coaching, career planning, and job search support to empower individuals to find a job and discover their true direction, build unshakeable confidence, and ignite the motivation needed to propel their job search forward.

Here’s what he had to share about networking with social anxiety, including tips, strategies, and words of encouragement to keep you motivated.

What is networking, and how does it affect someone who experiences social anxiety??

Networking boils down to a basic human need that Treas defines as the desire to know somebody and to be known. He notes that when we seek referrals and recommendations from other people, what we’re really looking for is to be recognized and seen.?

“It's about establishing connections that go beyond surface-level, and forming relationships that can truly make a difference in your professional life,” Treas begins. “But often, people experiencing social anxiety avoid networking because it is uncomfortable, complicated, or their version of networking actually makes their situations worse or harms relationships.”

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