Networking – It's Not So Bad!
Since I was laid off in November, I have been networking like never before. I never saw myself as a networker—I’m introverted, self-conscious, and initially uncomfortable in new situations with new people. However, due to my circumstances, I see this as something I simply must do. Each week since mid-November I have been meeting with anywhere from two to five people. Some are old connections, some are new friends recommended by old connections. All have been wonderful, generous people. I count 22 meetings, nearly all in coffee shops. (Coffee shops—a topic for another post!)
Here’s what I have learned:
- In general, people are generous with their time and connections. All of the people I have met with have been supportive, encouraging, and eager to help in some way.
- Everyone has a story to tell. I love hearing peoples’ stories!
- Telling my story to someone helps define who I am. There’s nothing like having to explain yourself to a new acquaintance to force you to learn who you are and what you want. Listen to what you are saying. Networking is a great accompaniment to discerning life’s most important questions.
- Networking is not just a utilitarian exercise. It is truly pleasurable to meet people and learn things about them. The world is full of interesting people! I have learned that many have journeyed and felt joy and pain in ways similar to me. What a gift to know them!
- Be other-oriented—it will enrich your relationships and bring you much satisfaction. Recently I met with a good friend. He told me about his work and asked me to introduce him to two of my connections. And I’m the one looking for work! Of course I honored his requests, and it resulted in new connections for him and a feeling of value for me, which my laid-off ego needed.
- Networking keeps you engaged in the world. This is good for anybody in any circumstance.
Get out and network, whatever your circumstances! It’s not as difficult as you might think. I would love to hear about your experiences!
Technical Writer / Technical Communications
10 年I really enjoyed the post. I think the most important way to network is to try and help others as much as you can. I believe it should be how can you impact others, not what can others do for me. Like you, I am also a socially shy, introvert, and also have a lot of trouble with networking as a whole. Taking this approach to networking, allows me to have a better experience.
Human Resources Consultant. Advisor for Individuals Who Are Job Searching (Ret’d)
10 年Jane Salmen, thanks for sharing this positive take on purposeful networking. Reaching out and making the needed contacts does not come easily to all job-seekers, yet the truth is that we each have something to offer others as well.
Retired!
10 年Mark, it was a real pleasure to speak with you today - from the heart and full of encouragement. Your post is so true. We have been given a gift of openness and willingness to listen with intentionality. It's meant to be shared. Networking is the tool to discover ourselves anew and experience the good and sincerity in others.