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Try this simple exercise. Learn to be still and know what’s next.
If you feel stuck, get ready to launch into higher gear.
By the end of this article, you’ll know a simple process you can use to know who you are based on your unique abilities, gifts, interests, and passions.
Why We Get Stuck
Here’s the source of the problem when we feel stuck.
We get stuck because we don’t know who we are. If we don’t know who we are, we can’t know what we want. If we don’t know what we want, we can’t know what to do.
There’s only one you in the universe. Once you know why you get stuck, you can use the process I’m giving you to reinvent yourself.
Here’s what holds us back.
Be Aware of Your Energy and the Energy Around You
Shifting your awareness into higher gear is essential. If you agree, we have a moral obligation to improve ourselves; you will be intentional about improving your awareness.
If you don’t believe you’re aware, at least you’re aware of that. Start where you are.
The first suggestion is to become aware of the people, places, and things that give you energy or take it away. If you don’t think you’re aware enough, at least you’re aware of that.
Learn to eliminate anything that sucks the life force out of you. Why waste your precious time and energy on people, places, or things that suck?
End the suck by improving your self-awareness.
Humans Being Human, Oh My
When was the last time you hung out with a friend or walked into a room, and there was a noticeable feeling within you that you were losing energy?
It was as if you could feel one big suck of your energy. When you left, you felt relieved. Then, it took a while to get your energy back.
In contrast, think of the positive energy, the lift you feel, when you spend time with someone or something you love. For example, it might be your life partner or spouse, a child, a best friend who’s like family, or a brother or sister who’s from a different mother or father.
You love them. They love you. When together, you feel positive energy like joy, bliss, and maybe even ecstasy.
When you become more self-aware and learn to take time to work on yourself, you’ll become more aware of how the energy of people, places, and things affects you. Fill yourself, surround yourself with positive things, and you’ll become more positive by being whom you seek to be.
Socrates — Know Thy True Self
It’s been said that an unexamined life isn’t worth squat. We can thank the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates for this:
“An unexamined life is not worth living.”
Socrates believed that a life without critical self-reflection and questioning was not fully realized and that examining one’s beliefs, values, and actions was essential for a virtuous and fulfilling life.
This phrase highlights the importance of self-reflection and the pursuit of wisdom and truth.
The question is, “Can you slow down, stop doing so much and being who you’re not, long enough to sit still with a journal and ask yourself some simple questions, then listen, wait, and get the direction you need from within yourself? Could you do this every day for at least a few minutes?”
Search Inside Yourself
If you don’t block time daily to “work on yourself,” I suggest it’s time to start. Who will if you don’t work on self-reflection, prayer, healing, and being still?
One of the best ways to search inside yourself is by journaling. Block time for yourself, sit, be still, and contemplate your feelings and thoughts. Take notes, and observe what it is. Observe.
Christians call this a form of contemplation. Buddhists and Hindus refer to it as meditation which we can learn to do when walking, sitting, or hanging out on a bench in public. Find your way, truth, and life searching within.
Searching within is a form of knowing yourself better. Writing is a high form of critical thinking and self-reflection. Journaling can be fun. It’s a phenomenal way of self-reflecting and organizing your feelings into clarity and direction you can trust and follow.
Ask, Listen, Be Patient, and Know
Here’s a simple process you can use to know and improve yourself. If you don’t know much about what’s next, fear not!
Sit in a comfortable place. Do your best to be uninterrupted. Use a journal if you have one. You might read something spiritual, listen to calming music, and set the tone of your room.
You could also learn to do this sitting on a plane, bus, or train in the middle of the general public.
Ask these questions, be still, patient, listen, and journal.
In summary, the process is one you can practice daily, as often as you’d like. Ask, wait, and receive messages that give you clarity and confidence to proceed. Then, take action.
Being Like Terry Hamlin
One of my dearest friends is a pastor named Terry Hamlin. He taught me years ago how he knows what to do next.
His formula is simple. When he has a new idea or feels stuck about any decision, he prays and waits for a crystal clear inner direction.
Terry waits through his not knowing, having complete faith that the God of his understanding will show him the way. Terry loves Jesus and devotes his life to serving others.
Terry’s never too sad, glad, or mad. He’s right in the middle living a life of service, which makes all the difference.
Terry knows himself and whom he loves more than anything else. As a result, Terry is loved by many, and he will leave a legacy worth remembering.
May you live a rich, healthy, happy, and long life by knowing yourself and your purpose.
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