Navigating the Harmony of Emotional Intelligence
Tattí Bícallho
Nexialist | Director of Planning & Development | Accomplished Speaker | LinkedIn TopVoice Emotional Intelligence
When you become the master of your emotions, you become a machine of efficiency!
For a long time, it was believed that what would determine a person's #success in life, such as professional achievement, financial status, or fame, was their intelligence measured by IQ.
In other words, the smarter or more capable someone was at passing exams or solving complex problems, the higher their position in life would be.
However, over the last three to four decades, #emotionalintelligence has started to emerge as something we need to look at and give special attention to. And furthermore, in today's world, we increasingly realize that Emotional Intelligence is the main foundation of virtuous behavior.
It is what sets apart individuals who thrive and succeed.
While some people may have a natural inclination towards Emotional Intelligence, it can and should be developed and improved throughout life.
Many aspects of these skills can be learned and honed through #education , personal experiences, practice, and #selfdevelopment . Working on Emotional Intelligence means gaining clarity about our own emotions and bringing them into consciousness. It involves observing what happens within us, acknowledging the feelings within ourselves, and situating, contextualizing, and analyzing them.
This leads to a tremendous gain in awareness and #selfknowledge that can only be beneficial in future experiences.
The different beauties of human beings
When we talk about the beauties of human beings, one of them is called #EmotionalBeauty , which is when a person has balance in their interactions with others.
Imagine this scenario: you encounter someone who possesses a so captivating physical beauty that it attracts and mesmerizes you. Moreover, as you engage in a delightful conversation, you discover that this person is not only beautiful but also incredibly #intelligent . It's hard not to feel immense admiration, right?
....however, things take an unexpected turn. The conversation shifts towards #conflict and disagreement. Impatience, rudeness, harsh words, and even irony become to be his/her #communication style.
...gradually you realize that this person is someone challenging to connect with, emotionally unappealing. Your admiration transforms into repulsion, and the desire is to be far away from there.
Can you see how the absence of emotional beauty corrodes all other forms of beauty?
Emotional Intelligence is an essential prerequisite for any other qualities a person may possess. It serves as the bedrock for their aspirations and endeavors, as the absence of it undermines every facet of life.
Out of Control
When analyzing the etymology of the word "emotions" we see that it means "movement" or "action of moving”.
Contextualizing, #emotions are movements that occur within us as survival mechanisms to bring us closer to what can be beneficial or to distance us from what can be harmful, and because of this aspect, they elude our control.
Yes! We cannot control emotions in the same way we control our behaviors.
That is, you can fall in love with someone, feel anger towards a coworker, or experience fear or terror in a dangerous situation; these feelings will arise within you regardless of your will.
However, despite not having control over the impulses of these emotions that erupt within us at any given moment, we have the power to manage our behaviors and determine what to say or how to act in each of these situations.
Therefore, Emotional Intelligence is not about controlling emotions, but rather about being able to manage them within ourselves!
#knowledge is everything
Emotional Intelligence is, first and foremost:
When we don't pay attention to our emotions, we're ignoring the primary source of synchrony between our bodies and the external environment.
Thus, it's no wonder that not knowing how to deal with emotions or how to interpret them naturally leads us to a state of desynchronization.
The synonym for desynchronized or asynchrony is #stress , and chronic stress is synonymous with #illness . Therefore, if all these negative issues stem from the inability to perceive, validate, and manage emotions, on the other hand, when we can do that effectively, we build #health and harmony.
Emotional Intelligence is simply honoring the privilege of having a balanced and prosperous life.
According to the WHO (World Health Organization), #anxietydisorders including stress or panic syndrome, are common mental health issues worldwide, affecting approximately 264 million people, as stated in their report on "Depression and Other Common Mental Disorders: Global Health Estimates".
Those who are aware that their thoughts are linked to their emotions, according to the sensations they experience, can analyze why a particular conscious content comes to mind and not another, or why they are thinking about something at this moment and not something else.
This analysis holds a great deal of self-knowledge, and that is tremendously auspicious and brings a great sense of security.
Individuals who completely ignore what happens within themselves are at the mercy of chance and the situations the world imposes upon them, whereas if you have clarity and awareness regarding the #relationship between sensations, emotions, and thoughts, you are much better equipped to know which path to take and which one to avoid.
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The risk of destruction
The lack of Emotional Intelligence functions like small dynamite sticks that keep exploding everything we've built.
It's not about our potential; it's about the maintenance we do throughout life.
We can construct a massive castle over the years, but without Emotional Intelligence, we may destroy it in just one day... and destruction is always much easier.
Emotional Intelligence is something we spend our whole lives refining, evolving, #learning , slipping, falling, learning again, gradually understanding ourselves, our weaknesses, our characteristics, understanding why we react in certain ways, learning to correct certain destructive tendencies, and above all, enduring discomfort.
When we tolerate something uncomfortable, we are building #resilience , and resilience is one of the pillars of Emotional Intelligence.
Will things become easier?
Many people spend their lives believing that as they accumulate experiences, victories, and failures, things will become easier. Big mistake!
Life doesn't become easier, it's you who becomes stronger if you brace yourself for it.
Take a moment to ponder over all of this. If the key to mastering Emotional Intelligence is unraveling the intricate workings of our inner selves, let me pose a straightforward question:
Can you untangle the tumultuous whirlwind of your emotions?
Notice that the biggest monsters reside within ourselves!
No place or person educates us emotionally. Once we have this precious perception and inner #knowledge , we start facing life's challenges with more ease. We grow and become stronger. When you don't confront your monster, sooner or later, it will come back to bite you.
The paradox of change: The only way to change who I am is to accept who I am!
Human beings possess what the French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau referred to as “perfectibility” - the ability to improve oneself over time.
The best way to develop Emotional Intelligence is by embracing the role of a student and having the humility to acknowledge our need for #continuouslearning and deeper understanding.
Examine your responses, actions, and behaviors. Assess whether your emotions are in control. Are you consistently experiencing fear, anxiety, or anger?
In essence, recognizing these patterns is the initial step toward transformation.
When was the last time you invested in yourself?
The responsibility lies in your hands to give it your all, and you have the capacity to learn and grow. Additionally, you have the #power to decide where to direct your energy, invest your time, and focus your attention moving forward.
Individuals with elevated Emotional Intelligence:
#Socialskills and Emotional Intelligence are intertwined, serving as pillars for one's personal journey, fostering meaningful connections, competence in various endeavors, and the ability to attain remarkable #accomplishments , ultimately leading to an immense sense of fulfillment in life.
It's okay for someone else to think differently!
We must always refine our patience, our tolerance, our ability to sustain contradiction and to argue or counter-argue without fighting.
Each individual must take self-responsibility for their own #transformation , so it is essential for you to seek knowledge and tools to understand why things work in a certain way, and why things are the way they are in order to acquire the ability to transform them.
You can kickstart this transformation by taking small but impactful actions.
Here are five game-changing tips that will greatly assist you:
Having clarity about things is like finding the switch in a dark room, preventing you from endlessly groping in the dark for a solution - Emotional Intelligence is the key that leads us to the switch, enabling us to illuminate the path.
Invest in the development and bring light to your journey!
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