NAME-CALLING...
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Heard it the first time, when she was called 'moti' or 'jaadi' {fat}. Later, she discovered a new one, 'jallu' or 'the jealous one'. Much later, came the deeper more hurtful names, 'Mozzi', 'Paki', 'frigid icicle' and the latest, 'bitch' and much worse. She bore it as she did most things, with a smile, though the pain tore her innards. She had hurt she was carrying from the various harmless and some harmful names she was 'honoured' with. She carried them like an armour, everywhere she went, to remind her that she will prove she's better and the best.
When she met me, I was emotionally taken aback by the life she lead. But she had the determination of a person who wanted to fight her demons, exorcise them and attain victory over her life. Not a mean feat, considering the baggage was old and hardened. She was an amazing student of life. Never giving up. Rising like a Phoenix, every time she was challenged otherwise. She had my admiration.
Did I coach her to be the independent, confident young woman she is today, who smiles away every gauntlet of hate or loss that's thrown at her? No, she coached herself. I, simply stood beside her and nudged her forward.
We have all been bullied, called scornful names when we were little. Sometimes, by our own caretakers, at times by friends, peers, people who see us as competition. It hurts. It always does.
Be kind as parents, aunts, uncles, teachers, supervisors in encouraging those who look up to us as role models. Stomp those scathing remarks before they imprint themselves on the naked minds of our children.
Your children have their own journey - to walk on the road of life. There will be challenges ahead, obstacles and hardships, why would you add to that misery? Be there for them as cheer leaders, root for them in their goals, say things that move them forward. They need that, the most.
Children deserve love. Shower them with it. They're amazing learners as well as teachers. Let's appreciate them lest we regret what those remarks turn them into.
Wish you a blessed week and the undying love of those children, nieces, nephews, grand kids, students, friends, peers who deserve better :)
Love and peace.
Tutor of shut down kids
4 年"When you are True to Yourself then No Name Calling would affect you. You will Not find any need to Justify it..." This should be classified under 'quotable quotes'.
--Transformational Speaker- Priest- Sports- Tech
4 年I will share a shortend version of one such event,as a TV broadcaster you will from time to time run into people who have seen a broadcast,I had an incident once where at halftime of a game, I stepped into the restroom, I had the habit of going to the public area restroom during halftime of games,I used the time to get a feel of what the fans in the stand were talking about,on this particular day a father was in there who reconizied me, a few weeks earlier his son was playing and I had pointed out on air one of his weaker points of playing the position, that had stuck with him, as he started to call me names I turned to him saying nothing,but allowing him to get it all out,once he finished I calmly stated that he in my position would have probably did the same, this put him in my shoes after a few seconds, he said you know you were right, he (his son) needed more training to play the position better we shook hands and he walked away. You have two choices when placed in such position respond or react .
Brand Marketing Consultant
4 年Name calling to give credit is what is required. Otherwise, it should be tackled one-to-one!
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4 年Very true.
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4 年superb - thought provoking