Nagging leads to Frustration, which leads to –Bickering.

Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging leads to frustration, which leads to –bickering.

We’ve all had situations where our emotions got the best of us. Often it’s because we didn’t realize what was happening until we were too far down the “emotional train” to change it.

The best time to handle an emotion is when you first begin to feel and experience it fully. That way it won’t keep popping up time and time again.

It is widely believed that females outperformed males in emotional information processing. The present female superiority in emotional information processing exists in a naturalistic social-emotional context, if so, what the temporal dynamics underlies.

Fortunately, there is a solution for dealing with mismatched expectations in a relationship! When our focus is centered on our differences in expectations, rather than our appreciation for the things the other person does “right,” conflict is inevitable.

The way any two people decide to fold towels, for instance, will probably differ, but does that make one of the ways wrong?

Of course not. Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration, which leads to – you guessed it – bickering.

Think about the things you and your partner have fought over.

?How many of these fights are actually over something important?

Have any of them had a productive resolution?

Most likely, the answer is no. It’s often said, “We argue about the smallest things.” Consider your expectations in a relationship.

Are the towels worth the emotional turmoil?

Probably not. Why not spend your time doing something that’s not only productive, but more beneficial to the strength and longevity of your relationship?

Critically, this modulation was more conspicuous in females: opponents’ angry expressions increased females’ risky tendency and decreased the amplitude of reward positivity.

Females are more sensitive to emotional expressions in real interpersonal interactions, which is manifested in both early motivational salience detection and late conscious cognitive appraisal stages of feedback processing.

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Thank you?...When you’re hooked, the attention you give your thoughts and feelings crowds your mind; there’s no room to examine them. One strategy that may help you consider your situation more objectively is the simple act of labeling.

Just as you call a spade a spade, call a thought a thought and an emotion an emotion. I’m not doing enough at work or at home becomes I’m having the thought that I’m not doing enough at work or at home.

Similarly, my coworker is wrong—he makes me so angry becomes I’m having the thought that my coworker is wrong, and I’m feeling anger. Labeling allows you to see your thoughts and feelings for what they are: transient sources of data that may or may not prove helpful.

Humans are psychologically able to take this helicopter view of private experiences, and mounting scientific evidence shows that simple, straightforward mindfulness practice like this not only improves behavior and well-being but also promotes beneficial biological changes in the brain and at the cellular level.

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Accept them.

The opposite of control is acceptance—not acting on every thought or resigning yourself to negativity but responding to your ideas and emotions with an open attitude, paying attention to them and letting yourself experience them.

Take 10 deep breaths and notice what’s happening in the moment. This can bring relief, but it won’t necessarily make you feel good. In fact, you may realize just how upset you really are. The important thing is to show yourself (and others) some compassion and examine the reality of the situation. What’s going on—both internally and externally?

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?When you acknowledge and make room for your feelings of frustration and anger rather than rejecting them, quashing them, or taking them out on others, you begin to notice their energetic quality.

They were a signal that something important was at stake and that you need to take productive action. Instead of yelling at people, he could make a clear request of a colleague or move swiftly on a pressing issue. The more you accept your anger and bring your curiosity to it, the more it seemed to support rather than undermine your leadership.

Act on your values.

When you unhook yourself from your difficult thoughts and emotions, you expand your choices. You can decide to act in a way that aligns with your values. We encourage leaders to focus on the concept of workability:

Is your response going to serve you and your organization in the long term as well as the short term?

Will it help you steer others in a direction that furthers your collective purpose?

Are you taking a step toward being the leader you most want to be and living the life you most want to live?

The mind’s thought stream flows endlessly, and emotions change like the weather, but values can be called on at any time, in any situation.

Emotions can also prepare the body to take action. The amygdala, in particular, is responsible for triggering emotional responses that prepare your body to cope with things like fear and anger.

Sometimes this fear can trigger the body's fight or flight response, which leads to a number of physiological responses that prepare the body to either stay and face the danger or flee to safety. ?

Emotions serve an adaptive role by prompting you to act quickly and take actions that will fight maximize your chances of survival and success.

Emotions unify us across cultural lines. There are six basic emotions that are universal in all cultures: happiness, sadness, fear, anger, surprise and disgust. We all experience these feelings, although there are cultural differences regarding what’s an appropriate display of emotion.

Emotional mastery supports healthy relationships. When you’re able to demonstrate emotions that are appropriate to the situation, you’re able to nurture your relationships. When you don’t know how to master your emotions, the opposite occurs:

You might fly off the handle at minor annoyances or react with anger when sadness is a more appropriate response. Your emotional response affects those around you, which shapes your relationships for better or worse.?