Was My Vote Enough?

Tuesday, you cast your vote. Congratulations. Now, you're facing the reality of who won the election. Are you happy with the results? Are you now able to achieve a sense of inner peace? A motivation to build?

By the way, I'm not asking if you are happy with who won the presidential election. I'm referring to who won in your living room, your kitchen and, of course, your bedroom.

Unbeknownst to you, you cast two votes on Tuesday. How did you do so? Well, where did you sleep last night? If you're married and live in the same home as your spouse, I assume that you also cast a vote to be in your marriage, as you have every day since your wedding. So, your marriage won. Great! Now what? Well, if you're happy and satisfied with the status of your marriage, then fantastic. Keep going. 

Yet, if you want more for or from your marriage, then now may be the time to act on the vote you cast. After all, during an election, it's easy to cast a vote, saying, "OK, I choose candidate 'he or she' to fix the world." However, in your marriage, any change is up to you and your partner. Therefore, your vote and commitment to stay together was just the beginning. If you want to enjoy all of the benefits your marriage can provide, it's up to you to make the changes needed to get there.

The good news is that, for most couples, this is an achievable outcome. What's the bad news? Many people, perhaps men in particular, will be hesitant to talk about their relationship, certainly to an outsider. So, let's talk about a few things here...