My Top 3 Soft Skills for Success

Let's face it — we're surrounded by experts in their fields who, despite their technical expertise, feel stuck and undervalued. The missing link? Soft skills.

The statistics on soft skills are telling, but look around, and you'll see the truth: experts struggling to achieve their goals in their chosen professions, to build and grow their business or to achieve big life goals, your education and technical know-how teach you ‘the skills of what you do’; soft skills teach you how to apply what you do out in the real world and rise to your greatest potential.

It's easy to blame external factors — the boss, the economy, the government. Yet, after coaching and training thousands of people from here to Africa, I've found that what really holds most of us back is an inside job.

All problems, at their core, are people problems. Whether motivating ourselves to rise or navigating interactions with the ‘other’ people we need to support our success soft skills are crucial. ?Soft skills solve people problems. Let's dive into the details:

1. What You Believe: Your beliefs about who you are, what you’re capable of, and what the ‘right path’ to success matter. A belief is a statement, proverb, or thought that you believe is true. However, you also have the power to decide it's not true. The good news is, you're in control of your beliefs.

One of the ways I help people uncover the false beliefs that hold them back is by listening to how they ‘label’ themselves. I am…. fill in the blank a procrastinator, shy, too loud, not confident, not good with numbers, a perfectionist or I suffer from imposter syndrome, fear you name it. These labels are just beliefs but if you keep saying them over and over again you can bet they will show up in your everyday experience. If you’re going to give yourself a label, make sure it’s a designer one.

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2.??What you think: Your beliefs shape your thoughts. When you begin to discard limiting beliefs and substitute them with what you consciously choose to believe, your thought process undergoes a transformation. It's essential to remember that just because you think something doesn't automatically make it true. The good news is, you have control over your thinking. You cannot march into a new future with your old thinking; it's the outdated thinking that keeps you stuck where you don’t want to be.

Delete the thought that doesn’t serve you and replace it with one that does this helps train your brain to quickly move from negative thinking to positive thinking instead of you taking one small negative thought and before you know if you don’t interrupt the negative pattern, you have written an entire movie inside your mind that leads only to a bad result.

1. How you feel: You have the power to manage your emotions. Your thoughts, many of which go unnoticed, significantly influence how you feel. Pause whenever your emotions shift—whether to happiness, anger, or sadness—and take a moment to observe your thoughts. What you're thinking aligns with what you're feeling. The undeniable truth is that when you feel good, you perform at your best.

Stop giving your power away and start taking charge of your destiny. Real change in your life is not going to come from the top down but from the inside out. You reading this are far more powerful than you may belief.

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Mastering these 3 overlooked soft skills transforms your ability to do the one thing essential for success — take action. Nothing trumps action! It's not just about what you know; it's about how you navigate the human side of achievement.

To your success journey and beyond! ??