My slow 2022
Virginia Cinquemani
I help sustainability professionals and teams become more impactful, assertive and effective | Sustainability Coach & Trainer | Bestselling Author of The Good Communicator | BREEAM Trainer
If you have been following me for a while, you might remember that I posted a couple of times in the last year or so about feelings of burnout.
Of course, being locked in at home with two kids to homeschool, not seeing family and all the trimmings that COVID has kindly cooked for us, surely didn’t help.
But I also realized that I have spent an enormous amount of time in the social media rabbit hole, desperately trying to pacify and feed my dissatisfied self. I also know that I overloaded my plate with lots of wonderful ideas and an impossible ideal of what a true entrepreneur should be: someone who is dedicated 100% to work while juggling family life and a shadow of social life.
At times of stress and lack of routine, what I needed was quite the opposite. I needed to prioritise. To stop and take an inventory of what was worth keeping and what wasn’t. To say “no” more often. You know the drill. I can just hear all my coachees shouting in unison: “Are you kidding me? You are not doing what you preach?!”
Sadly true. Often, in the last couple of years, I haven’t prioritized my own wellbeing, and I think my work has at times suffered as a consequence.
Why? Because I have taken the easy route.
I recently read 4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman, however, and I was prompted to reflect upon where in my life I was pursuing comfort when what’s called for was a little discomfort.
Growing, expanding, doing things differently (that includes striving for a more sustainable life) is painful. It takes courage and cannot be done on autopilot.
Scrolling on social media is easy. Posting pretty pictures on Instagram is easy and a good substitute for not looking in-depth at your life and pretending everything is shiny. Watching YouTube videos on how to do the splits is easier than doing the splits, or writing the book I have in mind.
Now that I also have a day job lecturing, I need to make some tough choices.
My number one choice this year is to take it slow.
Yesterday I read an article by Cal Newport talking about slow productivity, and it resonated immensely.
We are constantly distracted, trying to work longer hours, and most crucially, cramming more tasks on our plate every day as if we have an infinite amount of time available. We don’t.
No wonder most knowledge workers (and I’ll put myself in that category) feel burnout most of the time – recent McKinsey research found.
Coincidentally, I’ve been reading Deep Work, also by Cal Newport, and it seems pretty obvious that the best work in terms of quality but also quantity is produced not when we multitask and interrupt our flow with endless pings and social media/email interferences, but when we dive deep into a single task for a decent, uninterrupted period of time.
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In the last few months, I also came across a wonderful initiative, Flown, which confirmed for me this theory: imagine sitting in your university library to finish an assignment. Other people around you are doing the same. Nobody dares talk unless it’s for an emergency. Flown is a virtual Zoom room with lots of people doing their own work uninterrupted together to get the same, deep work results; a simple and powerful way to concentrate for good chunks of time and do your best work.
My deeper motivation to change came also from a vague feeling of discontent with my work, a feeling that I was never at the top of my game or my tasks.
Then I read 4000 Weeks, and the deep motivation I needed to make a change popped all of a sudden in front of my eyes (spoiler alert: we only have an average of 4000 weeks to live. Shocking right?! I’m well beyond halfway through… do I still want to watch people breaking watermelons with their heads on Facebook?!).
So, this is what I’ve done in my personal life:
Now to the work changes:
In 2022 I’m focusing mainly on my university work – I want to give it a really good shot and expand my sustainability impact that way.
I’m not abandoning Green Gorilla at all. But I’m focusing my work on a few, selected activities:
?And that’s it.
The only new year resolution for me is to follow Oliver Burkeman’s and Cal Newport’s suggestions to “serialise” my tasks, i.e., concentrate on one thing at the time, and move to the next when I’m finished with that, making sure I deliver it to the highest standard by focusing on it 100%.
In the process, I’ll decide in advance what I’ll fail at while focusing on the important things – say, keeping up with the Kardashians?!
So, are you joining me for a slower, more intentional 2022?
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3 年I absolutely love this and it resonates so much with what I’ve been going through! (Also, eternal love for Cal Newport’s work??) In the middle of the pre-new year planning and goal setting craze in early December, I decided that my new year will start with the spring equinox and that I am taking things slowly. It helped so much! I am also going back to James Clear’s atomic habits principles, striving to be 1% better gradually, with no sudden leaps. It has been so healing! Looking forward to following how your journey unfolds. ??
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3 年Love this! My resolutions are very close - I came to recognise a strange form of LinkedIn envy where I just keep scrolling, scrolling and get drawn in to feeling so small compared to everything that others are doing. Classic social media anxiety! Well, I said I was going to stop scrolling but..... Here I am ??
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3 年Definitely not a deliberately 'slow' but yes more intentional and certainly more present. But I guess I need some speed to catch up with you Virginia Cinquemani at where you're slowing down ???? Happy New Year!
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3 年Yes!
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3 年Sounds like a solid plan! Would love to hear about your findings later on. Until then, I wish you inspiring and creative slowness with focus.