My reflections on returning to work after my second round of parental leave in three years
Rebecca Comac
Commercial Executive | People Leader | Problem Solver | GAICD Collaborating to drive positive organisational change and solve complex problems
I’ve seen a number of posts recently from colleagues and connections sharing their personal experiences of juggling their career and family life.? It’s prompted me to reflect on my own recent experiences as a mum, and people leader at PwC, now that I’ve returned to work.
I am so glad to hear so many incredible stories of the support parents are receiving in the workplace in the form of better policies and cultural shifts, and of fathers taking parental leave and taking equal household responsibility in their relationships. As a partner at PwC, I am the beneficiary of progressive policies and culture and have just returned from my second round of parental leave in 3 years.? I feel so lucky to have had the opportunity to have time with my 2 boys, and am hugely thankful to my work colleagues, clients and teams for giving me that opportunity and also for welcoming me back to work.??
My own story starts in early 2020 (pre pandemic) when I was 7 months pregnant with my first baby. I was asked to be the people leader for PwC’s Financial Advisory business (a business currently comprising 2600+ people which brings together Deals, Legal, Private Clients, Tax and Energy Transition). The role was newly created and there was no real job description but very broadly it entailed supporting the business with its people strategy and operations.?
Now, given PwC is a people business (they are our number 1, most important, critical, only asset) and I had limited experience in human resource matters (being a tax Partner), I was pretty daunted. Add to that being pregnant, having just moved from Sydney to Perth to be closer to my family, and my husband (a doctor) being one of the first people in Australia to get covid, I was definitely feeling challenged and I didn’t know how it was all going to work.?
I worried about all the things you might expect but broadly, whether I could do a good job in the role and also be the kind of mum I wanted to be but said yes anyway and trusted that we would work it out. And we did. It worked in the way that it always does at a place like PwC - with teaming. An incredible group of people shared my workload on the two occasions I took time out to be a mum (and you will be very relieved to know this includes the most amazing human resources leaders). A huge thank you to Bianca W. , Kelly Mooney , Stacey O'Dea , Tamika Cullen , Joe Short , Warren Dick , Kat Pummell and Megan Fitzgerald to name a few.
Truth be told, at times I felt a bit guilty, anxious and insecure as a partner and business leader to have taken time away from my work, clients and teams.? It isn’t easy to take an extended break from work you are passionate about and an established practice, even when you know exceptionally capable people are taking on your work, and even when you trust that the people you work with will help support you to return. I experienced a huge amount of FOMO as I saw programs of work being implemented that I had strategised but not been able to see to fruition, or clients who had done interesting transactions I didn’t get to advise on.I even weirdly felt pangs of sadness at missing out on following the evolution of various tax law changes. I also felt the insecurity of seeing how well other people could do my job.?
Anytime I felt the guilt and anxiety kick in, I would remind myself that so many parents before me had felt like this about their careers, that there are critically important reasons we want people to be able to take parental leave, and that my experience of taking parental leave and working flexibly while in a leadership role helps not just me and my family, but others who I am able to better understand and represent when making business decisions. I would also look at my food stained track pants and the beautiful and small but intense humans who were taking up 110% of my mental, physical and emotional energy and in my sleep deprived state realise there was no way I could show up to paid work.???
I hope that being honest about my experience on parental leave, including managing the guilt, anxiety and FOMO, I might help to encourage others to take leave, or to support colleagues to take leave in a more caring manner.?
Recently I had a fellow partner tell me they knew they should take extended leave for their mental health but their fear of losing client work gave them too much anxiety which would only exacerbate their mental health challenges. Similarly, I have had male partners tell me they couldn’t take parental leave because it would be too hard to risk losing clients or to rebuild momentum in the market. I am thankful to see an increasing number of male colleagues taking leave over time and hope that continued improvement will come from sharing stories, celebrating different role models, and enabling better teaming.?
It’s so refreshing to see more business leaders understanding, empathising with, and talking about how hard it can be to juggle parenting responsibilities, as well as taking leave when they need it - rather than trying to show up and maintain a perception that everything’s fine.?
Leaders who understand the challenges of daycare and sickness, commuting and getting to work in a clean outfit, the conflicting feelings of loving your kids so much you feel like your heart is beating outside of your body, but also wanting them so badly to go to bed so you can have a small break. Leaders who team with others and ask for help when they need it. Role models.?
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Looking back at when I was asked to take on the people leader role, I can see that while I was unqualified in some ways, I had something different to bring, and I hope that the business skills and acumen developed over the course of my career and life experiences have made a difference in the business and strategic decisions I have influenced.?
With that in mind, I wanted to share a few lessons I’ve learned on my last round of parental leave that might be helpful if you’re about to take a period of leave, or for leaders of people who are:
For those taking extended leave
For business leaders
In the lead up to people taking extended leave and while on leave:
Supporting people with their return to work:
In today's constantly changing, more agile and flexible workplace, there is an opportunity to continually reassess how we're working, who does what, and how we can improve processes and practices to ensure we are running successful businesses, with people and teams feeling valued and engaged in meaningful work.?