My Fear of being Judged and how I overcome it

Here is my vulnerability moment and my most intimate confession-

I am not scared of the judgment of strangers but of those who love me and know me.

I am scared of being something completely new which is drastically different from how people have known me.

And this fear came alive when I decided to announce on LinkedIn that I am training to be a Life Coach 6 months ago.

Obviously, it didn’t help that I was bullied when I was young either.

?My fear kept telling me- they would laugh at you.

?They would think- “Who is she anyway to be doing this?”

They would say- “Oh she quit her job and this is what she is doing”

Who is they?

Not strangers. Heck I am not afraid of any stranger.

“They” are the people who have known me. My old classmates, my college mates, my ex colleagues, old friends, relatives, my old teachers.

I was afraid of “being” more than who I used to be in front of them.

I was afraid that my growth will make other people uncomfortable.

If you resonate with this- I see you, I hear you and I love you.

But here is the thing- When you choose yourself, your vision, your priorities- it will make a few people uncomfortable.

Growth is UNCOMFORTABLE.

That’s why its called growing- being more than who you were yesterday.

Shedding your old identity and adopting a new one- the one that resonates with your purpose, your soul.

Some might even try to downplay you. Or try to be condescending.

For them, show them the love and beauty of what you do and who you are-

Steal my answer-

“Hey X, yes I am currently a Life Coach. It is unconventional but I love it so so much! God I wish I could just put it in words! This is such a dream come true because I get to serve people everyday. I get to be the best version of myself everyday. I get to practice years of studying Psychology and Human Behaviour everyday! Here- look at some of the terrific transformations I have created for my clients. If you have any?more questions- please ask me, I am here for you”

Change or edit the script with whatever might suit you more.

?Remember- When you show love, when YOU are love- there is no place for judgement and fear.

When you vibrate higher, the other person has no option but to meet you there.

?I have come a long way but even now when someone from my past (without being in touch with me for a while) asks me what am I upto- I fear that they might judge me.

I fear not being accepted.

Bu then I take a deeeeep breath. I smile and I ask- How can I help you?

How can I give you more love and understanding?

And everything becomes calmer and peaceful.

And that’s the goal, isn’t it??

Love,

Riyanshi

Your growth strategy for this week- Answer the uncomfortable questions with love. With Faith and with Understanding.

I am a Life Coach. I help you get crystal clear with your Emotions + Goals by helping you create Clarity + Confidence in your life. If you need support, come lets talk?