My client told me, “I panic when my daughter starts yelling. I spontaneously get angry and yell back. Sometimes I even hit her.” What do I do?
I first helped my client calm down and appreciated her for being brave enough to bring such awareness to the coaching session. Many parents often point fingers at the child, saying that only the child needs to change. However, when parents practice conscious parenting, it is the parent who needs to change, which, in turn, will bring about a change in the child.
After helping her relax, I explained the concept of "inner child healing"—how we, as adults, still panic at yelling and anger because we were programmed in similar ways during childhood. After explaining the concepts, I offered her techniques she could choose to practice regularly in order to bring more emotional awareness.
One of the techniques she chose was grounding and we practiced it together during the session. I also guided her through relaxation and simple meditation practices with soothing affirmations, which helped her calm down further.
Key takeaways with this client:
My work as a coach is to mirror my client so they can continue expanding their awareness and shine even brighter. I am deeply passionate about the work I do, as my purpose is to foster a deeper bond between the parent and the child.
In every session and with every client, I remind them: It is okay to feel all emotions. Emotions are here for a reason. As we learn to listen to them, we become more equipped to manage our situations in a more empowered way.